(Closed) bridal shower money?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Uh, yes. It may have been your shower but it’s still his wedding. Had you received actual gifts like most people receive at showers, those would be shared between the both of you. It’s not like you wouldn’t let him use the new towels you received because they were gifted at YOUR shower. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

The money is for both of you, The only reason you are a Bride is because he wants to be Your Husband!!!  Why wouldnt you want share the money with your soon to be husband?  I wouldnt have even thought not to share it. 

Why dont you put that towards the rings as well as the other money you will get and then split whatever is left over. .  The money is for both of you, put it in your wedding fund, or save it for something you can both enjoy.  It would be really selfish for you to not share it with your future forever partner!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@UpstateCait:  exactly!!!

Or no sleeping on these sheets b/c they were gifted to me at my bridal shower! lol

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Won’t you guys be combining your finances when you get married? You’ll have to get used to sharing everything, not just money, real soon!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I’d probably buy myself a Louis Vuitton with it. No I wouldn’t (yes I would).

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Definitely share it..what’s mine is ours mentality 🙂

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It would never occur to me not to share it.  Why wouldn’t you?  Put it toward something that benefits both of you, be it the wedding rings, household items, your honeymoon, or savings for the future.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

The only $$ from my shower that I didn’t outright share was from one relative. She gave me a card with $100 cash in it, and pulled me aside later to tell me that she wanted me to keep her gift for myself for a very specific reason: that money was for me “to use when , Darling Husband, or both of us need a little something special, be it a dinner out, a movie ticket, or a very important thing for ourselves.” Basically, she wanted me to tuck it away and only use it when we really needed or wanted something out of the ordinary.

I thought this was a wonderful sentiment, and I intend to always keep the same amount of $$ stashed away for the same purpose.

But other than that, I treated every gift as an “us” gift, especially since Darling Husband was at the shower and opened all the presents alongside me. A household doesn’t know what “his” and “hers” means. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you weren’t going to share it (as your family suggested), what were you thinking of getting or how were you going to use the money?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It’s definately shared.

Why not ask your partner if he would like it contributed to both of your halves of the wedding? That way the costs will be brought down for both of you?

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