Post # 1
So, my lovely soon-to-be mother in law is throwing me a bridal shower. 50+ guests (some of whom aren’t even coming to the wedding but are her extended family/friends/acquaintances). I appreciate the gesture, but can’t help feeling a tad overwhelmed at the number of unfamiliar faces, and at having all of those eyes on me while I open gifts!
I’m pretty reserved, generally–I would prefer to open presents in private and then write a heartfelt thank-you note, rather than feel like I have to “perform” in front of a crowd of people whom (I feel) will expect me to gush over everything.
I’m lame, I know! First world problem, right?
Any brides out there feel my pain, or know how to overcome this silliness?
Post # 3
I feel exactly the same way. In fact, I don’t even want a shower because I can’t stand how awkward I know it’s going to be. I don’t think I have any say in the matter, though. My mom and FI’s mom have been in cahoots about something very secret for the past few weeks. *sigh*
Sadly, I have no advice, really. Just commiserating because I 100% understand not wanting to open gifts in front of a bunch of strangers. Heck, I have a hard time opening gifts in front of family at Christmas! Maybe afterwards we can share embarrassing bridal shower stories 🙂
Post # 4
why do you have to “perform”? just be yourself.
let her throw it for you, maybe ask if you can bring your MOH so you have a familiar face by your side.
then go, smile, open your gifts, say thank you. then go home and start writing all those extra thanks you notes.
Post # 5
I feel the same way…i convinced my fiancee to ask his mom if it could be a couples shower so he could share in the limelight with all those people i dont know!
Post # 6
@soupmachine: i just had mine this Saturday and I was nervous about the samen thing. It was not sobad. They planned a photo game during me opening presents so not everyone would be staring at me!
Post # 7
Mine is a week from Saturday and I am dreading it. Most of my friends a not attending because my mom booked it in the suburbs and none of my friends drive (we live in NYC). It’s just gong to be me and a bunch of my mom’s and FMIL’s I ends and extended family that I don’t know, and it’s scheduled to go on for hours. The only thing that’s keeping me going is watching the presents coming off our registry.
Post # 8
I feel the same way! I really don’t like attention so I know while it will be absolutely lovely, I will be nervous and be dreading it prior to!
Post # 9
this is why God created wine and champagne….
Post # 10
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Post # 11
@MagPie0829: I second the glass of wine (or something) to calm the nerves… once the nerves are out of the way, you can enjoy having some loved ones there and just be grateful for their generosity!
Post # 12
I’m definitely going to need to have wine at mine… I have anxiety and when my mom mentioned getting up at the end to thank everyone my heart just about stopped.
I have heard we can do thank you scrolls at each person’s seat so they get the “thank you for coming” without me losing it and turning all red when I get up and speak. 😛