Post # 1
Ok so my Maid/Matron of Honor is throwing a surprise bridal shower for me only shes doing a very poor job of keeping it a surprise, im really not trying to be ungrateful as i do appreciate this one and only thing she has done to help me out with wedding planning and such.
shes been handing out invitations in front of me, inviting people i did not invite to the wedding, emailed my FH to use our house as the location, but the whole catch that has me the most annoyed by it is she has planned it for 530 and i work til 545. keep in mind i get very sweating and hot at my job all i want to do is come home take off my embarassingly ugly uniform and take a shower. and its suppose to be a surprise wouldnt she think id want to clean my house before having people over? and she didnt even inform any of my family (my sister is also a bridesmaid) until i told her if she needed help she could ask my sister.
am i being to ungrateful about the situation?
Post # 3
Well I think she could have planned it out a little more and thought more about it. It doesn’t sound like she’s got it all together. And if I were her, I would plan it for like..630 or something…I wouldn’t plan it for a time when you were still at work..Unless that’s how she’s getting it to be a “surprise”, but still…she should consider all factors.
Post # 4
Wow, a nightmare indeed! I’ve always thought it to be in poor taste to invite people to showers or bachelorette parties if they aren’t invited to the wedding itself. But if she’s already handed out invitations you can’t go as far as un-inviting people… and changing the time would be a headache if people have already received invitations. Is there a way you could get out of work an hour early that day since you already know what day the shower will be? I don’t think you’re being ungrateful at all… I just don’t think your Maid/Matron of Honor has had much experience planning these types of events.
Post # 5
the thing is she doesnt know i know all this stuff i found out from 2 different people, we both work at the same job and i was scheduled to leave at 4 and her at 545, she asked me to switch with her because “her sister is getting married” so she told me, i would never change anything because i know how bad it would make her feel i just am very unhappy at how things have turned out. and i know had she talked to my mother and sister they would have helped plan something
@maggiegirl — i agree i think inviting to a party but not the wedding is very distasteful