Post # 1
Hey, everyone. I’m feeling so bummed. My shower is this Saturday, and I only invited about 12 people. This is because we are doing a friend shower that my Maid/Matron of Honor is throwing, and then a family shower that my fiance’s aunt is throwing. I only have about 12 close friends that I feel comfortable enough with to invite to something as intimate as a shower, including the bridal party. The problem is that some people aren’t able to come…
So far, my guest list looks like this: my 4 bridesmaids, my Maid/Matron of Honor, my mom and Mother-In-Law, and my boss and her daughter, and another coworker. Possibly one of my BM’s moms.
I have about four or five people who are unable to make it. Which is fine, and I know that everyone I invite won’t be able to come. But right before invites went out, they reassured me how excited they all were to come. I told them the date before I sent the invites and everything. So, since they aren’t coming (one decided not to come and it was sort of a domino effect…), my shower is just super small.
I’m honestly just a little embarrassed. My Maid/Matron of Honor has worked so hard to make it beautiful and basically half my people that I was sure would be there won’t be.
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I threw a shower last year, the bride had me invite more than 50 people, 11 of us attended (including the bride), and it was a great time. Small showers are nothing to be ashamed of. Put a smile on your face and enjoy your day with the people who are there to celebrate your upcoming wedding.
Post # 3
I invited about 20 people and so far only 5 are coming including 2 bridesmaids. Im tryin not to let it get me down too. I knew most people wouldn’t be able to come but one person is coming who I didnt expect and I’m so ecstatic. You just have to look at who IS coming and look at the positive 🙂
Post # 4
Mine might be nine people, but I’m sure it will still be a good time. We invited twelve, but FI’s cousin just decided that her 6yo is having her birthday party that same day. I’m a little bummed because my invites have been sent and they don’t even have a venue and haven’t sent out invitations yet, but she told me I’d have to wait and see if they can attend. Fiance was really upset about this. Fiance parents always do what this cousin does so I’m a little worried.
Post # 5
I totally understand. I haven’t had my shower yet but with all the work my Bridal Party is putting into it, I really hope we have a good turnout.
Is the shower at someone’s house or in an event space? If it’s the former, I think it will totally be fine and probably nice to have just a few people around that you are close to.
Either way, it will be wonderful so matter what! You already started out with a small guest list so they won’t be expecting too many people. And if you wouldn’t have split family and friends, it would be a lot more so it makes sense it will be small.
Post # 6
Why didn’t you just have one large shower? Inviting only 12 people, you must have none that noone all would RSVP?
Post # 7
I would just be happy that you’re having a shower at all rather than focusing on what you perceive as an “embarassment” of having a small shower…
Post # 8
My daughter’s April bridal shower was booked at a restaurant last November. Everyone had more than 5 months notice of the date; everyone received an e-mail, text, or private Facebook message. Attendance will be around 75%, if we’re lucky. I’m shocked at the number who haven’t even bother to respond. Unfortunately, showers arent’ a priority, for a lot of people.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - Excalibur
Be happy you’re having a shower! When we planned our first wedding (we canceled to elope) I wasnt getting a shower. Be grateful someone wanted to throw one for you, and have fun!
Post # 10
So I feel like many people think I’m being ungrateful, which I’m not trying to be at all! We threw a small shower because I had two people who wanted to throw showers. My Maid/Matron of Honor, and an aunt on my fiance’s side of the family. So, we did kind of a bridal shower, with just my friends from work and stuff, and then his aunt is throwing a wedding shower, for both Fiance and I, and all of our family.
I’m not embarrassed that my shower was going to be small. I wanted a small shower when it came to friends. No one wants to go to an event with 50 people that don’t all know each other, and sit around while the bride is too busy to chat with every person. I wanted it to just be a group of my closest friends. I wouldn’t have wanted to invite someone that I wouldn’t have felt comfortable hanging out with outside of my shower, just as friends, you know? When I mentioned being embarrassed, it was because my Maid/Matron of Honor has put so much work into it, and everyone was expecting pictures and stuff, and if there were just a couple guests…I just wasn’t sure how it would be percieved to the guests that were there and my Maid/Matron of Honor who spent all of this time planning it and trying to make it beautiful. I wanted her efforts to be worthwhile.
I’m happy to let everyone know that it actually went great. We had it at my parent’s house, and the decorations looked so pretty! The ones that I was scared wouldn’t be able to attend did end up being able to come, and we had a total of 14 guests, 15 people if you count me. It was really fun, and we played lots of fun games and had a good time.
Thanks for the support everyone! I hope this makes you all feel better about your showers coming up! Mine turned out wonderfully and I ended up having an awesome time!
Post # 11
I’m glad you had a fun time! I actually think it’s a smart idea to have a friends shower then a family shower because your coworkers probably wouldn’t feel comfortable hanging around with a bunch of strangers from both of your families. I know I would probably feel a little out of place.