(Closed) Bridal shower – opening gifts w/ Fiance

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Simsbury 1820 House

My sister’s bridal shower we had my Brother-In-Law come in for gift opening. For her baby shower, we didn’t. I think we are planning my Fiance will come in for mine.

I would tell the person hosting that since the gifts are for both of you, you would like him there if she’s ok with that. Don’t be disappointed if she is really against it, but at least broach the subject.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Every bridal shower I’ve ever been to, the groom/fiance was there helping to open gifts. Why not, the gifts are for both of you guys…

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s not a thing here. The shower is hosted for the bride by her friends/family/future family and it is still seen as a social event for the women. I can only speak for my DH but I know he would have zero interest in socializing with all the women,and having  a cup of tea and some dainty sandwiches.

The groom comes at the end to help his Fiance take the gifts home.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

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summerbride2016:  never seen that happen unless it was specifically a “couples” shower. Which is also one of the many reason I prefer a couples shower

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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summerbride2016:  Every shower I’ve been to in the last 5 years (including my own) was done this way. As for your aunt, I would just ask “hey I know the shower starts at ____, so what time should Fiance come to help open gifts?” They’re his gifts too. 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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summerbride2016:  Maybe that’s why it doesn’t work/happen here. The shower is all about opening the gifts. The socializing is minimal, maybe one game, before the gift opening, and more so after.

We don’t have the fancy showers I read about here, where someone books a venue and a formal meal is served. There are relatively simple affairs held in someone’s home.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

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summerbride2016:  But if you want him there to open gifts then yes, he will be there for the shower.  Opening of the gifts is part of, and really the whole point of, the shower.

Honestly, I would just tell your Fiance that you would like him there to open the gifts with you.  I really don’t think you need approval from the host to do this.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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summerbride2016:  Even more reason for him to come then!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

I have been to several showers like this. Some showers the groom and the father of the bride as well as any close males have done something close by like grab a beer or lunch and then bring the groom to help with gifts and greet his family then the other men help at the very end to load up the car.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

DH came to both of ours.  He wasn’t the only “boy” at either – one was a couples shower, and the other was more traditional, and hosted by my aunts the same weekend that my in-laws came from New Husband to OK to meet my family.  Our dads and some other men in my family were there.  

 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have never been to a bridal shower where the Fiance was also there, it’s always been just the bride.

I guess I wouldn’t have cared if DH had come, but I am pretty sure he would have rather done something else.

I had 2 showers, and the second one was put on by DH’s aunts and female cousins – there were no males invited ot that one.

I’ve been to one co-ed baby shower, and that was one that I planned. My frinds DH and another friends DH were there, and it actually was fun! They had a blast with our games, ha. My friend was the only one who opened her gifts, though.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

No I haven’t ever seen this before… My Fiance didn’t come to help open the gifts, but he dropped in at the very end to say hi to everyone and help carry the gifts 

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