Post # 1
Has anyone ever had a bridal shower or been to one where the fiance comes at to help bride open gifts? I’ve been to at least one like this if not more. It was a traditional bridal shower (i.e. all women) but at end her fiance came to help open (& then load) gifts.
What are your thoughts?
I would like this for my bridal shower being thrown by his aunt (I actuall did not want a bridal shower at all but Future Mother-In-Law insisted….and the opening gifts in front of everyone that I do know/do not know well gives me a bit of anxiety, for whatever reason).
How do I bring this up? When I asked my Fiance if he was coming to help open gifts he replied “not sure”. Do i ask/tell whoever is throwing it my request? Does he, or do we tell his mom?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2016 - Simsbury 1820 House
My sister’s bridal shower we had my Brother-In-Law come in for gift opening. For her baby shower, we didn’t. I think we are planning my Fiance will come in for mine.
I would tell the person hosting that since the gifts are for both of you, you would like him there if she’s ok with that. Don’t be disappointed if she is really against it, but at least broach the subject.
Post # 3
Every bridal shower I’ve ever been to, the groom/fiance was there helping to open gifts. Why not, the gifts are for both of you guys…
Post # 4
It’s not a thing here. The shower is hosted for the bride by her friends/family/future family and it is still seen as a social event for the women. I can only speak for my DH but I know he would have zero interest in socializing with all the women,and having a cup of tea and some dainty sandwiches.
The groom comes at the end to help his Fiance take the gifts home.
Post # 5
never seen that happen unless it was specifically a “couples” shower. Which is also one of the many reason I prefer a couples shower
Post # 6
Every shower I’ve been to in the last 5 years (including my own) was done this way. As for your aunt, I would just ask “hey I know the shower starts at ____, so what time should Fiance come to help open gifts?” They’re his gifts too.
Post # 7
He would only come at the very end to help open the gifts, he would not be there during the shower
it’s not my aunt, it’s his aunt who I’ve met a few times but we’ve never talked.
Thanks bees for input thus far
Post # 8
Maybe that’s why it doesn’t work/happen here. The shower is all about opening the gifts. The socializing is minimal, maybe one game, before the gift opening, and more so after.
We don’t have the fancy showers I read about here, where someone books a venue and a formal meal is served. There are relatively simple affairs held in someone’s home.
Post # 9
But if you want him there to open gifts then yes, he will be there for the shower. Opening of the gifts is part of, and really the whole point of, the shower.
Honestly, I would just tell your Fiance that you would like him there to open the gifts with you. I really don’t think you need approval from the host to do this.
Post # 10
shower I went to was a sit down lunch at restaurant, socializing before, a game or 2 etc so her fiance was not there at all during that, literally came just when she started to open gifts. But yea, I will say I want him there but host prob needs to know so we can tell him what time to come
This shower will be really casual in his cousin’s house.
Post # 11
Even more reason for him to come then!
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
I have been to several showers like this. Some showers the groom and the father of the bride as well as any close males have done something close by like grab a beer or lunch and then bring the groom to help with gifts and greet his family then the other men help at the very end to load up the car.
Post # 13
DH came to both of ours. He wasn’t the only “boy” at either – one was a couples shower, and the other was more traditional, and hosted by my aunts the same weekend that my in-laws came from New Husband to OK to meet my family. Our dads and some other men in my family were there.
Post # 14
I have never been to a bridal shower where the Fiance was also there, it’s always been just the bride.
I guess I wouldn’t have cared if DH had come, but I am pretty sure he would have rather done something else.
I had 2 showers, and the second one was put on by DH’s aunts and female cousins – there were no males invited ot that one.
I’ve been to one co-ed baby shower, and that was one that I planned. My frinds DH and another friends DH were there, and it actually was fun! They had a blast with our games, ha. My friend was the only one who opened her gifts, though.
Post # 15
No I haven’t ever seen this before… My Fiance didn’t come to help open the gifts, but he dropped in at the very end to say hi to everyone and help carry the gifts