(Closed) Bridal Shower Present

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I hate to break it to you, but my favorite gifts were all off of my resgistry.  That is why I had a registry, so I wouldn’t get any creative gifts that people would think I wanted and I would have to pretend to be happy about not to hurt feelings.  The gifts I got that were not from my registry were either returned, or if unreturnable are sitting in the back of my closet collecting dust and they will become white elephant gifts next Christmas.  I know this sounds harsh, but it is the reality of why registries are created.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I mostly agree with caliocteach about just going off the registry, but if you plan to get something off the registry for the actual wedding gift, you could probably get away with doing something different for the shower.  If it were from a close friend who knew my taste, I would appreciate something fun and different for a shower gift.  Just make sure there isn’t already a shower theme and I wouldn’t go with lingerie or something if it is going to be a family shower (unless that’s the theme.)

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Bree, this might be what you are looking for….  For a wedding present (not shower) a friend gave me framed, one of our wedding invitations.  It’s something someone doesn’t register for.  It’s personal and unique.  It probably doesn’t cost too much money (or at least doesn’t have to).  No one else came close to getting me anything like it.  And to be honest, it was one of my favorite gifts.  (And that includes things off my registry.)  Why???  Things off my registry I could get myself, especially since people often give money for wedding gifts.  And I never would have thought of it myself. 

With that said, I’m sure if everyone gave me personal gifts, rather than registry gifts, that would get a little frustrating.  Some people did give me "alterior registry" gifts.  Many of them were misses.  Generally, if someone gave me something other than registry or stuff or money, the thought crossed my mind that they either: didn’t care what they got me, rushed out to buy whatever, regifted something, or didn’t want to spend too much money and knew that we’d know how much was spent if they bought something off the registry.  (I don’t know that was the case, just crossed my mind.)

Bottom line, if you have something in mind you feel strongly about, go for it.  If it’s from the heart, the couple will able to tell.  I think the problems that arise, come from when the gift that is not from the registry isn’t thought out.

Post # 6
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456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Are you close to the bride (or groom)? If I were getting something from someone I was close to, something meaningful would be great. Like if it were from someone I grew up with, a framed picture of us as children, or something that referenced something that was important to us. Like my best friend and I love gnomes, of all things. I definitely agree with the above, make sure it’s well thought out and meaningful, if you’re not going with the registry. Because that is why we have registries, so we get something WE want, not what someone else thinks we ought to want.

Post # 7
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278 posts
Helper bee

I usually pair up a registry item with a unique item so it’s not a lose-lose situation.  If you want to create a more unique gift with registry items, you can create a themed basket full of smaller items on the registry and you can add your own little things in there too. 

I love personalizing my gifts to add a little touch to it.  I once got a cookbook the couple registered for and I personalized matching aprons for them "Mr. S—" and "Mrs. S—" to go with it.  The bride, groom and all the guests loved it and it was something they really appreciated.  Best of all, everything together was less than $50.

 

Post # 8
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2640 posts
Sugar bee

Pink, that’s a great idea!  I might have to use it.

Post # 9
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773 posts
Busy bee

I definitely wish people would just buy things off my registries.  If everyone goes buying "unique" gifts, nothing will match.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

A hotair balloon ride from my bridal party for us to do on our honeymoon!

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