(Closed) Bridal shower presents

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7661 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Nah. We used all of our stuff right away. I understand that some people think it’s bad to use it just in case you break up before the wedding (because you should technically give the gifts back) but we were pretty confident that wasn’t going to happen 🙂 

Post # 4
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had never even thought about it! Some stuff I saved but…they were things like an engraved frame. Other stuff I used right away.

Post # 5
12241 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

No, just be sure you send the thank-you note before you throw away the card/box!

Post # 6
10045 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We used all of ours right away.

Post # 7
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If you want to go by proper etiquette – you’re not supposed to use any gifts from pre-wedding events (bridal shower, engagement party, ect) until after the wedding, because if they wedding were to be called off you are supposed to return gifts to the giver.


Fiance and I used some things anyways – if we would have happened to call off the wedding we would have reimbursed the gifter for the used gift. We did, however, not spend any of the money we have recieved.

Post # 9
3361 posts
Sugar bee

@ravenxwonder:  Technically you aren’t supposed to, because if the wedding was called off, you would need to return them to the senders.  If god forbid that were to happen, you could always just replace the item and return that to the sender.

Post # 10
4332 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

proper etiquette says you aren’t supposed to use anything. (And I *definitely* wouldn’t tell anyone if I were going to!) If you think about it, it’s kind of rude to use it. Like, people are giving this to you for your marriage/wedding, so aren’t they expecting you to save it for that?

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