Post # 1
Hi – I’m my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor for her upcoming wedding. She’s having a really small wedding (40 people).
Since the wedding is this small you can imagine that the shower will be really small as well. Still I want to make it nice for her and a special day that she will always remember.
Unfortunately our mom passed away a few years ago, and my sister is not really close with any of the women in our family. So I expected that the shower would include a few of her friends, a close family friend on our side, as well as her future Mother-In-Law and 2 future SILs.
Here’s the problem:
I sent out the invites last week and have already received regrets from her Future Mother-In-Law and her 2 FSILs. Their excuses (in my opinion) were weak. They either said they have to work (can’t request a day off a month in advance???). Or that they can’t get away from the kids for a few hours on a Saturday afternoon???
Additionally our close family friend is not able to attend either.
What should I do?
Cancel and reschedule? Go ahead with only a few people (assuming her friends won’t decline)? Request that she ask her future husband to speak to his family and convince them to attend? Cancel completely and just do something special with my sister alone?
I’m feeling really stressed because I want this to be special and its seems like nothing is going right.
Any suggestions or similar experiences?
Post # 3
What is most important to your sister? If the people closes to her can make I would still have it. Don’t force (i.e. ask FH to get his family to go)People make time for what they wanna make time for.
Post # 4
Personally, if it were me, I’d be embarassed to be having a party with so few people. I would be more comfortable just going out to a restaurant with those people instead! Such tiny parties are really awkward. I vote cancel I think
Post # 5
If not enough people RSVP yes, move the shower to a nice cafe or plan a fun outing to go along with it. I’ve seen a lot of bridal showers happen at local eateries, like Olive Garden with less than 10 people.
Post # 6
Oh yuck – even Future Mother-In-Law and FSILS declining? Ugh!
I tried to throw a stag & doe when I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend. It was a total bomb… so I ended up cancelling it and spending more on her bachelorette.
When did you set the RSVP date? Does your sister already know about it? I’d wait a bit to see what RSVPs come in… and then if there are still enough for a nice coffee & hen talk party, go for it! If not – whisk your sister away for some quality one-on-one time – maybe at a spa, or somewhere she’d really appreciate going but wouldn’t necessarily take herself.
And depending on what kind of relationship you have with your Future Brother-In-Law and his family, yeah I’d want to know what was up with Future Mother-In-Law & FSILs… is there a chance they’re planning something on their own and can’t do more than one extra event? I hope it all works out for you and your sis!
Post # 7
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If the list gets small enough, could you possibly do a lavish high tea at a Ritz Carlton or some outing special like that? I know I would LOVE that to death, and know that something like that wouldn’t be possible with a lot of guests!