Post # 1
Ok…so I have a wonderful friend who lives about an hour away from me who wants to throw me a bridal shower. I know my Maid/Matron of Honor will want to throw one too. My question is, do I invite the same people to both? I don’t expect two gifts from everyone I’m just not sure how to split up the guest list….and it would mean A LOT for my friend to throw the shower, but I don’t want to step on my Maid/Matron of Honor toes either….what do I do???
Post # 3
You don’t have 2. If you wanted your friend to throw the shower than you should have made her your Maid/Matron of Honor. The only thing you can do is to ask them to work together.
Post # 4
First of all I didn’t say I WANTED her to throw me a shower…she has OFFERED to throw me one. Secondly I didn’t say she was my closest friend and wanted her as my Maid/Matron of Honor, she is a very DEAR friend to me and I know it would mean a lot if I agreed.
Post # 5
If it was me I would split the guest list. Maybe family for one and friends for the other. Then invite people you are really close with or the bridal party to both. I had two baby showers for a similar reason as you and did it the way I mentioned. It worked out really good.
Post # 6
I had two wedding showers, there is no rule against it. I would just think about all the people you think should be invited to a shower and hopefully you can divide them into two lists? Does one of the girls know your family better than the other? If so, splitting it into a family shower and a friend shower is a good idea. Or, do you have potential guests who live close to your friend where it would be easier for them to attend her shower? Maybe you could talk to your friend too and see who she might want to invite. You can invite the wedding party and your closest family to both.
Post # 7
Can they work together? If not, maybe the friend can throw your bridal shower and your Maid/Matron of Honor can throw the bachelorette party? Or vice-versa.
Post # 8
Explain to both of them that you have 2 friends who want to host a shower.
See if they would want to work together.
If they don’t, the friend who asked you first should get to choose what type of shower she is giving, when, where, etc.
The 2nd friend should be humble and understanding of this also.
Explain to her, if girlfriend #1 doesn’t want to share the responsiblity, what the situation is and see if she wants to give a different type of shower.
If you end up having two miscellaneous bridal showers, I think that is fine as long as you don’t invite the same people. How you divvy up that guest list—will be your decision!
Post # 9
If two people want to throw you two different bridal showers, then you get two showers. There isn’t a rule against it at all. Maybe, if you can’t think of a good way to divide the list (family/ friends, location a/ location b), you could make one shower bigger and one more intimate. That way, if one of you friends might have a harder time hosting a large shower, or lives farther from most of the guests, she can host a smaller shower.
Post # 10
@mwitter80: You don’t have 2. If you wanted your friend to throw the shower than you should have made her your Maid/Matron of Honor. The only thing you can do is to ask them to work together.
No, showers don’t work like that. The Maid/Matron of Honor is not required to throw a shower and is not the only person who gets to throw one. If 2 people want to throw you a shower then that’s perfectly fine. However, you do not invite the same people to both. Maybe you could split the list into friends and family. You can also let both girls know that the other wants to throw a shower and they might decide to combine them.
Post # 11
@RunsWithBears: yes to this.
Op- you can even do close friends and family at one and co-workers and not at close friends (as well as people who were not able to come to the first) at the second.