- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I need some advice. If someone invites you to their bridal shower, are you required to invite them to yours? On my bridal shower guest list, we (me, my mom, FMIL) invited my BM’s, and a few of my good friends from high school and college, my aunts, female cousins and a few of my mom’s closest friends, and my Future Mother-In-Law invited FI’s aunts and female cousins. Anyway, the reason I ask is because the other day I received an invitation to my FI’s best friend’s fiance’s suprise shower. She is invited to the wedding and rehearsal dinners since her Fiance is a groomsman in our wedding, but I have not invited her to my shower. We are friendly and get along really well when we see each other, but aren’t very close…but I still feel bad getting invited to her shower but not inviting her to mine. Normally, I would just invite her, but what makes things complicated is that my Future Mother-In-Law is friends with FI’s best friend’s mom (the fiance’s FMIL) and she is not invited to my shower since my Future Mother-In-Law chose to only invite her family only and no friends. If I invite FI’s best friend’s fiance, but not FI’s best friend’s mom, there could be some potential drama between my Future Mother-In-Law and FI’s best friend’s mom. What should I do? Is it ok if I don’t invite FI’s best friend’s fiance to the shower, or will it look rude if I don’t invite her since I was invited to hers? Or am I just making this out to be a bigger deal than it really is? Thanks ladies!