Post # 1
My best friend and Maid/Matron of Honor is giving me a bridal shower the end of next month. She has asked that I make out a guest list and address which I am prefectly fine with doing this. My dilemma is this…I come from a huge church(roughly 1200 people), born and raised in this church, she told me that she would send out invitations to only those that are on my list and to those that are also invited to the wedding. I have a lot of friends at church and I don’t want to have to invite them individually. She doesn’t want to put an announcement in our bulletin or anything but I think it’s too much to invite them all individually. I know there are several people who will not be offended if they are not invited to the wedding but come to the shower. I guess I just don’t know where to draw the line. Do I invite everyone and don’t worry about the wedding guest list? Or do I invite everyone to both the shower and the wedding. We wanted to aim for a smaller wedding but if we go this route it will end up on the bigger side. Not sure what to do. Any help would be much appreciated!
Post # 3
Eh, I’m really not a fan of inviting people to the shower when they’re not invited to the wedding. You really should sit down and think about who you most want to attend the wedding and then only invite those people to the shower. Good luck!
Post # 4
I would only invite them to the shower if they can come to the wedding. I would be offended if I was only invited to the shower, mainly b/c I’d feel like all you wanted was a gift from me.
Post # 5
I would do 2 separate showers, if you think a lot of church people would come. One for close friends and relatives who are invited and one for church people. Your Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t even have to organize both, you could talk to a friend at your church (or get your Maid/Matron of Honor to talk to someone to see if she could at least get help).
I would view the church shower similar to a coworkers shower.
Post # 6
I agree with@AB Bride: – I would keep this shower wedding invitees only, as is ‘proper’ for most people, and then have a church event. I’m sure they’ll be happy to join you, even knowing you can’t invite them all to the wedding.