(Closed) Bridal Shower—Question from a Bride’s Perspective!

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Overstepping.  It’s her party in your honor.  I don’t even think you should bring up that you found/bought those bags.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you answered her questions and what you’ve done is not out of line, but I would stop now so you don’t cross that line into controlling territory. If she wants your opinion or help again, she’ll ask you. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you answered her questions and what you’ve done is not out of line, but I would stop now so you don’t cross that line into controlling territory. If she wants your opinion or help again, she’ll ask you. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Agree with PP. She got the information she wanted from you. Now step back and try to let her do it with out interfering. (I will say that my Maid of Honor shared a GoogleDoc with me so I could see who had RSVPed. ๐Ÿ™‚ )

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes and no.

For my shower, my compentant Bridesmaid or Best Man took care of the details, I didn’t have to do a thing and I trust her to take of everything (she’s been a Bridesmaid or Best Man many times before and got married last year). I gave her a list of names/phone numbers and a list of liquor (it’s a stock the bar shower).

My Maid/Matron of Honor organized my bachelorette and I didn’t trust her to pull it off without any intervention. I was very specific I wanted no phallic symbols,  etc…  This part still wasn’t followed and my Maid/Matron of Honor could have done more to prevent what happened (basically went white water rafting, and company had their instructors dance for me, pull me up in front of an entire bus of people, hand me a dildo and a paddle. I was not impressed).

Your wedding is the event you get to micromanage. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter if your guests don’t have those cute bags, and yes you are overstepping your boundary. Maybe you can use those bags for your wedding party/family/vendor thank yous.

My wedding is ‘wine’ themed, so I’d take them off your hands ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think you’re necessarily overstepping… I mean, my sister, who I dearly love, is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and I think you could say I’m trying to micromanage some stuff…but so what? She loves me and has to be my Maid/Matron of Honor no matter what. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Only you know your relationship with your Maid/Matron of Honor…some people would be fine with you offereing suggestions or whatnot, and others wouldn’t.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

@Ms.Blutiful: Overstepping. 

 

I think it is too much to tell someone else that they should throw you a wine tasting. That is a party that could get pricey very quickly.  You really need to accept any party that they throw you graciously.  Even if that isn’t your dream bridal shower.  Surely, spending time with your loved ones, is what is important in the party, not favours, and themes.

Do not send her any links.  Clearly, she too can google seach if she is stuck for ideas.

You should also not buy or suggest a favour for the party.  I have never been to a shower with a favour and is not a required part of any party. 

Step back and just enjoy the party.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I actually think it’s no big deal to help give your input. It’s YOUR shower, and though they get to throw it for you, they should also keep in mind what will make YOU happy. I think sometimes BM’s throw a party that they would like, rather than keeping in mind that it is for the bride. I think if you politely say that you found something that would work and you got them for a great price, that is fine.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would say its not too much pushy but yes somehow its a kind of interfering in her arrangements for your party…….trust her for her choice……
You can ask her how things are going on and if she need your help in anything……and show her what you bought for favor and if she needs those for the party you can give her…..but don’t show her that you really want to use them……
Giving suggestion is something else and interfering is rude….so let her do everything on her own…..

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