(Closed) bridal shower question!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would send out of courtesy. If they are grandma/fmil they def should get either way, even though you know they won’t come. You can draw the line at non family attendees of the weddng who are far away but family, I’d say put one in the mail for the thought.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I had my MOHs send invites to my out-of-town family members even though we knew they wouldn’t come.  I think they really wanted to come and really, really wanted to send gifts.  They would’ve been kind of offended if I didn’t at least send an invite.  And one of my aunts that I didn’t expect to come ended up coming, which was really nice.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, your grandma and future step mother in law should get invited. Their feelings might get hurt if they don’t and I believe proper etiquette says they need to know they are invited even though you know they can’t come.

I will make sure that my future mother in law (who lives in TX) gets even though I know she can’t come.

Post # 7
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3265 posts
Sugar bee

Just as an aside, YOU shouldn’t be sending anyone a shower invitation.  But I would have the host send grammy an invite. 

Post # 8
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I did out of courtesy. My mom said I didnt need to because some (more traditional folks) find this poor etiquette because they think you are just inviting them for a gift. But I wanted to extend invitations to let people know I wanted them to be there because I love them – gift or not.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@PitBulLover: I did the same with some people. I didn’t invite every woman that was out of town but I did invite my aunt and her daughters and a couple of close friends from where I live (my shower is in NY not NC). I just wanted them to feel included.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My mom will probably still invite all of my BMs even though they don’t live in town…it’s not because I think they’ll come or I want a gift from them, but more because I think it would be strange if they were a big part of the wedding but not included in a part of it! My Future Mother-In-Law can not make it, either, but I want her to know we would want her there if she could make it. I would still send invites. I told them I by no means expected them to travel across the country for it, but I wanted to invite them.

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