(Closed) Bridal Shower Question(s)

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Tell her you don’t know…nobody has mentioned throwing you one. Maybe she’s digging to see if SHE should do one for you. I know a lot of Brides register early, b/c people will want to get you gifts whether you have a shower or not. If you don’t WANT a registry then don’t make one, and tell your MIL that you’re not having one, and therefore, don’t need a shower.

Post # 4
8162 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

your registry acts as both your wedding and bridal shower registry.  people can also use that registry if they are buying you engagement gifts.

the sooner you register, the better.

typically the MOH and BMs host the shower. but if your FMIL wants to throw you one, let her.  you can mention to your MOH about the shower your FMIL wants to throw.  you might have 2, you might have 1 big one, you never know.

the only people that do not host the shower are the bride or her mother, that makes it seem gift grabby.


Post # 5
9165 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Well the registry for the shower is typically the one used for the wedding.  So if you’re going to register for the wedding, you would use that same registry for the shower.

Do you have a bridal party?  Typically the MOH and BMs hosts one.  Though it’s not uncommon for a mother, FMIL, or aunt to host one for that side of the family.

I would just tell her you have no plans for a shower at this moment.  Maybe she wants to throw you one?

Post # 6
11239 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

If no one has mentioned that they are throwing you a bridal shower (though you’re still quite a ways away from anyone thinking about that), you can just tell her that no one has offered to host one yet. It’s possible that she’s wanting to host one for you.

As far as registering goes, typically you register at 1-2 stores for both the bridal shower(s) and the wedding. If you do not want to register anywhere (like you already have nice things for your home), then don’t. If you don’t register, you shouldn’t have a bridal shower.

Post # 7
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just be honest with her – you don’t know. The bride is not supposed to plan the shower on her own, but I think she can help. My mom and FMIL put mine on and I helped alot. I printed the invitations, picked out the games, made a dish, helped set up, decorate and clean up but they did a majority of the planning along with the bridesmaids.

Post # 8
6549 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@yehyehgirl:  I knew I was going to have one, so my FI and I registered–it was spoken about. We just didn’t know who planned it and paid for it.

If you register for gifts, hopefully someone will take the inititive to plan you one. If you don’t get one, then you don’t one.

Post # 9
45642 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Bridal showers were held long before there were registries. Yes, it does make it easier for your guests to choose a gift, but not having a registry does not make a bride ineligible for a shower.

Someone could host a kitchen, time of day, recipe, wine, lingerie, date night, etc etc etc shower without using a registry at all.

Post # 11
794 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@vorpalette:  +1 Exactly what I was going to say!

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