(Closed) Bridal shower questions >> American customs

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

The bride normally doesn’t do anything. Shower’s are can be hosted by a number of different people. Your mom only needs to help if your Future Mother-In-Law asks, it’s always nice to at least offer to help. The biggest shower i’ve been to had about 30 women. I invited 23 to mine. Showers can be done anywhere from a couple weeks prior to the wedding, to a few months before (mine is a month before) Yes, invite the women members of your mom’s family, no matter how old. 🙂

There will probably be finger food, games, and presents. If your family isn’t strict, alcohol can also be had.


I hope this helps!

Post # 4
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013



The showers are usually a little dressier, but not fancy. So go buy a cute outfit!

Post # 5
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

It’s always nice for your mother and bridal party to offer to help host. Your Future Mother-In-Law will probably tell you who it’s for but I’m guessing it’s more for your FI’s family since she’s hosting. The timing can vary greatly but I would generally think about 2-3 months before the wedding. Have fun! 

Post # 6
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s really individual! Generally your Mom won’t help her, since it’s an event for you to get gifts at. Generally the bridesmaids do help a LOT! But if your Future Mother-In-Law wants to do it with no help, that’s her decision!

If you’re very comfortable with her, you can give her a list of people… But I personally wouldn’t unless she asks for one! I think the shower is generally around three months before the wedding. I’ve always seen a mixed audience at showers! Any female invited to the wedding that lives near the shower location!

You can definitely offer to bring stuff! But if she says “No, it’s okay!” Listen to her! She’s throwing you an AWESOME party!

Post # 8
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@36goldfish:  Ask her how many people she’s comfortable with hosting. Minimum it should be your bridesmaids and close female relatives. If she’s ready, willing & able to do a bigger shower, though, you can extend it to others… but anyone invited to the shower should be invited to the wedding.

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