Post # 1
Hi bees! Me again. My mom and Maid/Matron of Honor are throwing my bridal shower. My mom says they need to invite every female invited to the wedding, but I’m leery because se girls I don’t even know. She insists that is precisely why you invite them: so you can get to know them prior to the wedding. So I’m asking the bee!
We are having a small wedding, around 40 people. I’m only having a Maid/Matron of Honor and no bridesmaids. If we invite all the invited women, there would be about 15-16 shower guests.
People invited, besides my Maid/Matron of Honor, my mom, and me, are my grandma, aunt, FI’s 2 sisters (one I’ve never met and Fiance hasn’t spoken to in years but on FB seems nice), my few friends, FI’s stepmom, and the wives/girlfriends/fiances of FI’s guy friends.
My question is, do the latter (FI’s friends girls) need to be invited to my shower? I’ve only met one of them once, the other one we’re hot and cold.
Post # 3
You don’t have to invite every female attending the wedding.
Post # 4
Nope. You invite your close friends and families. Not the girlfriends of your FI’s friends.
Post # 5
Nope, totally don’t need to invite every girl going to the wedding. I would even feel awkward if I was one of your FI’s friend’s FI/GF/wife and didn’t know you and was invited. You should invite his family (sister, aunts, mom, step mom, ect) but SO’s of male invities are definatly not a must.
Post # 6
oh thank goodness! Now for the showdown with my mom to pare down the invite list..
Post # 7
I would probably just invite the people you’re close to!
Post # 8
You technically can invite who you want, as long as they are invited to the wedding. However I did not invite my Husband’s uncle’s Girlfriend to my shower and she was upset about not being invited (1.completetly forgot about her 2. She was a guest/+1 of an invited person IMO)
Post # 9
I was recently invited to the bridal shower of a bride that I didn’t know. It was the same situation that you are describing, it was my FI’s good friend’s bride. I declined. I’m not a terribly social person and I would have felt really awkward going without ever having met her and without Fiance. We then attended the wedding. It was not an issue at all. So, consider that they might feel just as awkward about it as you do, and even if you do invite them, they might decline the invite.