(Closed) Bridal shower rant.

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 4
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Well first thing if this a party for you, you shouldn’t pay anything. The first bridal shower I planned I was 22 hadn’t been to any weddings as an adult yet, and I got and needed  a lot of help from Mob, so it’s a learning curve and your Maid/Matron of Honor can do it.

You have been in the drivers seat controlling this, when really you should have little to nothing to do with it. It’s quite possible you made this more stressful then it needed to be for your Maid/Matron of Honor and she feeling intimidated by the process. I think the most you should have done is put her contact with your mom. Then it would be up to her to ask the bms to help or contribute, up to her to figure everything out. I do think she would keep you in mind, however it’s ok if she has different taste then you, it’s a party she hosting in your honor and it’s not the time to be nit picky.

You shouldn’t be so invovled in the planning process of the shower, and I think that what causing your Maid/Matron of Honor not to take the reins, I also would be hurt and have issues if the bride was that controlling and critical. If you are going to get upset over the shower the yes dont’ have it. If you go forward with it, it’s time to take a big step back let your Maid/Matron of Honor and Mother be in charge of it and actually plan it. Remind yourself to be thankful that she is doing this, and be prepared for the fact that you may not love every aspect of the party.

Also keep some perspective and remember at the end of the day it is really about spending some good quality time and gaining support from the women important to you during this exciting  time in your life. Everything else is secondary.

Post # 5
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Usually the bride doesn’t have anything to do with planning her own shower.  Can you ask one of your family members to be involved?  Or more of your bridesmaids?  It sounds like your Maid/Matron of Honor is having trouble handling it on her own, so maybe you can ask someone else to please help her out?

Post # 6
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2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think if I were you I’d just let it happen. It may not be exactly what you want but honestly it’s a party in your honor…thrown by your MoH…and you aren’t supposed to be involved in pitching in and planning, etc.

I just told my MoH if she wants to throw one great, but if it’s too much of a financial strain, don’t worry about it. She asked me how picky I was about the food but that was it. 

It turned out UBER femenine, like a dream almost….I myelf am a bit more trendy/edgy so it came out differently than If I would have planned it……but still it was sooooo LOVELY! 

I mean, what more could I ask for?? The food was great too…I said I really didn’t have a preference but they did fruit and cucumber sandwhiches and stuff like that…sooo yummy. 

I think my only regret was having very few people show up. I think only two of my BM’s really helped with the planning of my shower…the others came, so that was nice. 

Post # 7
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You definitely should not be helping plan OR pay for this party.  It is a gift-giving event for you, so it is not appropriate for you to contribute anything apart from a guest list, maybe some food choices and possible themes.

Let your friends and family plan the shower that they can afford and feasibly run.

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