- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2016
I come from a country where bridal shower do not exist. My fiance is from US though, we’re getting married in the US and we’re live there after the wedding. (I’m from Europe, not currently in the US). I had been in the US before, know his family, friends etc.
My future MiL wanted to throw me a bridal shower, and I agreed. Due to K1 visa issues (don’t know whether I’ll come to the US 3 months before the wedding or 3 weeks) she suggested to do bridal shower this summer (a year from my wedding) due to those special circumstances (long distance relationship etc) while I visit my fiance as a tourist. I’m sure guests will be more then understanding about the shower being so far from the wedding – they know me, they know our story and they know our circumstances.
However, since I’m coming from a country where bridal showers simply do not exist (we do bachelorette parties, but no showers), and my MiL asks me to pit a bridal registry (and start thinking about wedding registry – in my native country cash is the default gifts, I don’t think I’ve ever given anything for the wedding), I’ve got few questions.
– What price range should I think of when it comes to bridal shower registry? And while we’re at it, what about wedding registry?
– If let’s say 20 people will be invited for my bridal shower, how many things I should register for? More or less? More would give the guests more choices and ideas, but I don’t want them to feel that they need to get all from my lists. So if 20 people are coming, should I rather register for 10 things or 30 things?
– If around 70 people are coming to my wedding, how much gifts should I register for the wedding registry?
I tried suggesting “a word of mouth” method while using my future MiL but it doesn’t work. She thinks a registry is a must.
Sorry for asking such basic guestions, but not only I’ve never done it before, but I’ve always never been to a wedding with a registry. Also, gift standards in my country are different (mostly cash) and very generous, and I don’t want to make some faux-pas by registering for Kitchen Aid if it’s too expensive.
Also, do I put gift cards on the registry as a possible suggestions? Or tell MiL that if she’s asked, she should mention that gift cards is a totally valid option?