Post # 1
I’m really bummed. My mom and bridesmaids are planning my bridal shower. I absolutely love surprises! I never asked any questions. I never tried to get hints as to when, where, and how. Well, my cousin just called me to ask me about a concert that we’re both going to. I’m not sure why he felt the need to say this but he said, “oh, that’s the day before your bridal thing”. Leave it to a guy I guess to not think about something like that. I said to him, “uh, I don’t think you were supposed to tell me that”. He said, “oh, crap. Pretend you didn’t hear that”. What?!?!?! How am I supposed to pretend to not have heard it? I know some may think that I’m being dramatic but I am devastated. I was really looking forward to seeing how they planned on surprising me and now it’s ruined. Not to mention I now have the dilemma of whether or not to tell them that I know or “pretend” to be surprised when I get there. What should I do?
Post # 3
you only know the date it is still a surprise what they are doing for you
Post # 4
True. I’m just upset that I’m now going to miss out on the overall total surprise. I will completely expect it on that day. This is the only bridal shower I’ll ever have and I really wanted it to be a complete surprise.
Post # 6
I would pretend to be surprised. Anything else would not be gracious. Almost everyone I know has had the surprise ruined for them. I did, my mom did, my Aunt did, my sister did, my BFF did. Usually brides figure it when it is before it actually happens anyway.
Post # 7
Thanks. It makes me feel a little better that it happens a lot.
Post # 8
If you feel like your surprise has been ruined, why would you even consider ruining their surprise?
Although you may know the date, that’s all you know, so you can still be actually surprised by the details- how they get you there, where it is, what is the theme and decor etc.
I can see being a bit disappointed, but no need for melodrama. As a pp has said, many surprises are blown before the shower.
Post # 9
That’s a bummer. But you’re still going to have a great time. I would pretend to be surprised, why bum everyone else out? You’ll have other surprises in the future.
Post # 10
@smrlovingrl: I didn’t know they made surprise bridal showers. What if you weren’t available on the date? I’ve heard of the details being a surprise, but not the date.
Post # 11
@smrlovingrl: my mom told my MOH she wanted my shower to be a surprise.
my Maid/Matron of Honor asked me if this was ok. I said I didn’t care either way.
my mom threw me a fantastic 29 1/2 surprise birthday party. i was totally surprised.
i’m not sure how this is going to work out. when my Maid/Matron of Honor was asking me dates for my b-party, she said i probably could figure out when the shower is.
i am anxious about it because things come up and i’m afraid to plan things.
Post # 12
I was the same way with worrying about not planning things every weekend. But now that my cousin has spilled the beans I guess I can go ahead and fill up my calendar. I’ve always wanted a surprise “something”. I thought this was going to be it.
I totally agree that since it was ruined for me I should’t ruin the excitement of the surprise for everyone else. I just don’t know how I should act when I get there. I don’t want to overdo it but I don’t want to look unappreciative either. That’s my dilemma.
My mom pretty much knows everything that I do. She’s like my BFF and I tell her everything. So she knows when I have plans and when I don’t.
Thank you all for the advice. I really do appreciate it. I have calmed down since the other night when I posted this. I posted as soon as I got off the phone with my cousin and it was fresh in my mind. I just needed to vent and figure out how to handle it. Melodrama over!
Post # 13
Glad you’re feeling better, and sorry someone ruined your surprise!