Post # 17
At this point, I think your best bet is to go along with the whole thing. The theme has been set and it might hurt feelings to suggest anything but appreciation. Bottom line, you are being celebrated by your friends and family. I would even let the SIL get her way, everyone there will know who the parties for. I don’t think it will take the limelight from you. Particularly if you’re the one wearing the funny outfit.
I’ve been to a shower with a bride who was not a good sport and it made everyone feel ackward and less than appreciated. I’ve learned that much of the wedding process is about picking your battles and making sure everyone feels welcome and appreciated.
Post # 18
Its not your party, meaning you are not the hostess, sorry they got you so wrong which I think is what is bothering you the most-I know it would me–I am classic, simple so something that looked like a craft store blew up would be weird for me. HOWEVER, as you are not the hostess you are not responsible, for the theme, just think how chic your house will seem to others in the future and I think you will have an extra wide secret smile in all of the pictures
Post # 19
Just wanted to update y’all……I did what everyone suggested and acted very gracious, which i was (it was a party afterall!), and very sweet. They purposefully tried to embarass me……the thing is, they made it a hat party, and everyone knows I hate hats. I REFUSE to wear them EVER, and I live in snow country. I make it very clear that I won’t wear them, that I hate them, and that they look terrible on me. It was a blatant attempt to make me feel embarassed. They got me a large green velvet hat with purple feathers, blue flowers, and a black veil……..it was to make me look stupid. Nice, huh? The GREAT thing was that all the guests who came had their hats and then said "Can I take this off now? i hate hats." and I didn’t have to wear it for more than fifteen minutes. Good thing because I bought a new very pretty, cute dress for the occassion….and the hat made it a total waste. And yes, my sis-in-law did announce her pregnancy as well, but what can ya do? Overall, it was a good party once the hats came off and the guests did what they wanted to do anyway. Thanks to everyone for your advice! You helped me keep my cool!
Post # 20
I’m so happy you were able to enjoy it. I would be upset if someone announced her pregnancy at my shower, but you did the right thing by not making it a big deal. Good for you, Gracielou, for showing such grace under pressure!