Post # 1
I know traditionally for ANY shower baby, bridal, etc that it’s a girls only affair…..BUT I was thinking about it and idk if its just me but my guy has been real involved in every part of our wedding and I kinda feel like it would be fun to have a couples party instead that way my guy can be there and help me open gifts and just have a good time! I did ask him which he would prefer and he said he didn’t mind either way but he would def be down for a couples shower….before I talk to the moms is this OK does anyone do couples showers instead of just all girls????
Post # 3
I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, I just cannot imagine any men in our group of friends (including my husband) that would have wanted to be there at all LOL!
Post # 4
It’s fine to do a couple’s shower. We have them at work all the time. But the guys’ eyes usually end up glazing over during it.
Post # 5
Couples showers are becoming more and more popular but I personally didn’t want one. I figured that if we got into it being a couples shower then we would end up with nearly our entire wedding guest list being invited and I thought that was way too much for my girls to handle (both psycially and financially). I guess I’m traditional when it comes to showers and prefer that they remain girls only.
With that said, it is customary (in my area, atleast) that the groom show up towards the end of the shower to thank everyone and do all of the manual labor (like load up all of the gifts). Darling Husband came to mine about half way through opening the gifts so he still got to experience some of that. Maybe just having your Fiance come for like the last hour or so to help you open gifts would suffice?
Post # 6
Thanks for the input and ideas bees!
Post # 8
I did a couple’s shower for my Boyfriend or Best Friend in addition to her family bridal shower which was mostly ladies. It worked well, we had a different vibe that was cross between wedding shower and… well… kegger. Everyone said they had a blast.
FWIW, I’m totally pushing for Fiance to be there and helping me open the gifts. I figure some of his GMs will be pulled along, so he can hang out with them otherwise.
Post # 9
if you want him there, and if he wants to be there then i don’t see why not.
the first half of my shower will probably be women only, but i’d love for my fiance to come later in the day. we’re having it at my friend’s lake house, and we’ll be swimming and hanging out later into the evening.
we’re having a joint bachelor/bachelorette party though. i think we’re all going on a wine/brewery tour together.
Post # 11
My Darling Husband sat next to me and helped open gifts for the entire shower. He loved being there, and asked me later why any groom *wouldn’t* want to help open a bunch of presents. None of the ladies (family and friends) thought anything of it, and many of them had addressed their cards to both of us.
At one point about 20 minutes in, he excused himself and left the room. I thought he was going to get a drink or something, but he came back in with an armful of beautiful white roses for me! So we did include that “traditional” moment, but rather than leaving again he simply stayed.
Towards the end of the shower, my mother pulled out a huge bag and announced it was time for Darling Husband to “take a breather” from the ladies and to go check in with the dads who were elsewhere in the hostess’s house. So he thanked everyone and left the room, and my mother went on to deliver her version of the “panty line” poem, complete with fabulous lingerie and silly jokes. It was a huge hit, and when I told Darling Husband about it afterward, he said he’s glad I had a few “girly” moments too.
We’re both really glad he was there, and it was fun to hear him insert little quips as we opened up the gifts — “oooh, no more cereal in our house!” when we got a waffle pan; “does this mean we need to buy some cheese?” when we opened a wine fridge; “oooo so soft and snuggly” *waggles eyebrows* when someone gave us a high-end sheet set. It was fun!
Post # 12
I think a joint bachelor/bachelorette party would be fun for everyone but i dont see our guy friends wanting to attend your typical sunday afternoon bridal shower. But if you and your fi like the idea then go for it!!!
Post # 13
Boston Baby – that’s the style I think I was hoping for! Sounds like you had a great time!
Post # 14
I know my guy wouldn’t want to participate.He is pretty traditional.If yours is interested,go for it.
Post # 15
I hate to even admit it, but I LOATHE showers in the traditional sense. I LOVE giving my friends gifts to celebrate weddings/babies/housewarmings/whatever…but I hate every second of cake and punch, chit-chatting, oohhhing and ahhhing, and the worst of the worst…games. I know, I know…kick me off the ‘bee.
I would love more than anything to have an actual PARTY where ALL my friends are invited (guys and girls, couples, and singles) and have a more open even with food, music, drinks, etc. More than half of my friends are guys anyways. I think this would be so much fun for a wedding shower. A friend of mine did it for a baby shower and it was a HUGE hit.
Post # 16
@Apexgal22: It ended up being a pretty fun day, all in all. Good luck and I hope you enjoy your shower!
@pccl: I exchanged a few e-mails with the hostesses of my shower, and they asked if I had any thoughts at all. My sole request: NO GAMES. Cake and punch were never an option — one of the hostesses is a hobbyist gourmet chef — so she created an entire menu of savory hors d’oeuvres and we had wine, cider, and spritzers.
There’s kind of no escaping the oooohing and aahhhing though, since opening gifts in front of everyone is very much expected. It started to grate on my nerves at one point, so I looked up and said “I think it’s time to change it up a little… could we have eeeeeees from this side and ohhhhhhhhs from over there, please? Much better.” They all laughed, and it became sort of a joke to change up the reactions. My aunt started saying “yow!” and “yippee!” which was hilarious.