Member- meelovesdonutsx19
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2001
I apologize for the long vent..but thank you for reading it anyway 
Ok so I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor for my older sister and it’s been quite hectic and painful. Her wedding is in July and my wedding is in December. I’ve basically had to plan my wedding along with her bridal shower at her own “timing.” What do I mean when I say “her own timing?” Well you all know that with dresses/flowers/photography/dj/venue, we have to book them early and do a lot of research before putting any money down. Well my sister hasn’t made this process any easier for me, not one bit. I say this because while I was trying to research these things out, meet with people, etc, she told me that I should be planning her bridal shower as well. She has a way of doing things on a specific timeline and if you don’t do things according to HER timeline, she’ll get really upset and drive you nuts until it gets done. So I told her straight out that I wasn’t able to do any planning for her bridal shower until the bulk of my wedding plans were done, like the things I mentioned above. I said that it wasn’t going to be on her timeline when I started planning for her shower, and that she shouldn’t expect me to make it my main priority.
We’ve been lashing out at each other for a bit..tension gets higher before weddings I’m sure..lol..so anyways, she’s been going back and forth on the bridal shower itself. “Yes, I want one. No! I don’t want one.” It’s literally driving me crazy. Since now the bulk of my wedding planning is slowing down, don’t get me wrong, I still have lots to do, like my DIY invitations, etc, I can focus on her bridal shower now. After all the back and forth craziness, she’s finally decided that she wants one. So now I’m trying to get the 2 other BMs together to talk about the budget and games, etc.
It’s funny though, I always thought that a bridal shower is filled with close family and friends, and NOT with people you haven’t met in like 9years just so they can fill up a seat. Well she’s inviting all these people who really haven’t been great to her in the past, and I really don’t see why she’s inviting them. I mean she can invite whoever she wants to, but I feel like why these people? I’ve heard so many stories about them from my sister back in the day how awful some of them treated her…and now I’m just thinking, well why the hell are you inviting them? Honestly, if it was just composed of close friends and family, than most of these people shouldn’t really be there. I don’t think my sister even considers them as being her close friends. I don’t know. Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe bridal showers are for anyone who wants to come. I just hope that none of these girls ruin her day.
Anyone have any bridal shower ideas or comments about this? I’d love to read them.
