Post # 1
So, Fiance and I are getting married in Napa. We’re inviting about 100-120 people, limiting to close friends and immediate/close family. My dad, who has a HUGE family and a ton of friends, is throwing us a reception when we return, a week after the Napa reception.
My etiquette question is the following:
Who gets invited to the bridal shower? Originally I was only looking to invite those attending the Napa reception. My mom, however, wants to extend the invite to everyone also invited to the reception back home a week later. I’m concerned that there’ll be hurt feelings since not everyone is invited to the Napa reception, but my mom thinks that if I don’t invite everyone to the shower, there’ll be hurt feelings there too. What’s the right thing to do here? Invite Napa reception guests only, or extend the bridal shower invitaiton to everyone??
Thanks so much in advance!!
Post # 4
I think that if you’re upfront with the people who will be invited just to the reception back home, there’s no reason not to invite them to the shower. I can foresee a problem if they think that because they’re invited to the shower, then they’re invited to the wedding, but as long as you’re clear it shouldn’t be a problem.
Post # 5
I’m not sure about hurt feelings and what not, but it seems like everyone can be invited to the shower and that will be fine. You shouldn’t feel bad about inviting people to certain parts, which means you should be forthcoming about that. Everyone should know where they stand, so if they don’t want to come to the shower because they’re being a baby… they don’t have to come. But give them a chance to make their decision I think. Either way, everyone will be involved with y’alls marriage somehow.
Post # 6
Thank you girls so much!! Yeah, I think I’ll do what you girls’ suggested. As long as everyone’s clear, it shoudl be fine. Thanks again!! 🙂