(Closed) Bridal Shower when "eloping"

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Maybe do a bridal tea or luncheon instead? I’d be uncomfortable asking for gifts from people not invited to the wedding or reception.

Also, I’m sorry about your dad and think an intimate wedding sounds lovely.

Post # 3
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Agree with PP. A bridal tea or luncheon sounds like a lovely way to celebrate. Essentially a non gift giving event. Your friends sound very sweet and understanding but it is still not appropriate to ask for gifts from anyone who is not invited to thew edding. 

Post # 4
9924 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would thank my sister but tell her it’s inappropriate to have a shower when you aren’t inviting any of these women to the wedding. 

You could have a bridal tea (no gifts) if you really want, but nothing more.  

Post # 5
21 posts
  • Wedding: July 2018

When someone else is throwing you a bridal shower, YOU are not asking for gifts.  So I think it’s fine.  I hate hearing that “gift grabby” term or what you are “supposed” to do for a wedding!  It’s your wedding, celebrate however way you want, with whomever you want.  Nothing wrong with someone throwing you a bridal shower, bachelorette pary, post reception party, or whatever.  Don’t stress those things because life is entirely too short to be thinking about what other people think you should or shouldn’t do. JMO

Post # 6
10527 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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rachyweds :  

Yes, agree other  pps that  a not-shower would  be better , though if you know for certain that the invitees are fine about not being invited to the wedding  it probably will be OK any way . Nice of you to care though!

PS you are not eloping,  nothing like it, it just  a (normal) small wedding. An actual elopement would not be known about let  alone have a shower, so no probs there.  

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