Post # 1
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Newbee
Hello bees – there is not better advice than from all of you, so when I got stuck I knew where to turn!
I live in Ann Arbor, MI but am getting married in Seattle, WA in August. We are planning on heading back to Seattle for a week in March, but not again until a week before the wedding in August. I just heard last night that my FMIL’s friends want to through me a shower, and asked when did I want to have it. What do you all think?: March is quite early, but a week before the wedding is quite late. What should I do?
Thanks!!
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Thats very nice of your FMIL’s friends! Would it just be them and family or would you have your friends there too? I think if its just them and some family it doesnt matter when it is if it works for everyone since they want to throw it for you. It is early, but 1 week before the wedding is too close to be having a shower (imo). If you are going to have a shower in MI, you could do that one closer to your wedding date.
Post # 4
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Newbee
We’re definitely having a party with our current friends in MI sometime this summer. The WA shower would be more family and a few friends. Is there enough time to plan a shower in a month? I would hate to put them out just because it works for us to come home in March..
Post # 5
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Honey bee
My mom just looked it up in the etiquet book she has. It says 2-3 months prior to the wedding is ideal. If you have to be just over or under that, its not the worst thing in the world though.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
I would think March would work out better. That way you would have time to get the gifts home, as opposed to coming home with the wedding stuff AND gifts from the shower.
Post # 7
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Newbee
hmmm… good point @mrskesslertobe. Do shower gifts always come off the registry? We’re only going to register for our honeymoon since we’ve been living together for years, and while new pots would be nice, we’d rather go on an awesome trip.
Is it a total faux pas for me to separately register for stuff like pots for the shower?