(Closed) Bridal Shower — Which Option Sucks Less?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Bridal Shower Date (please explain your reasoning for selecting a certain option)
    Friday Evening of Memorial Weekend -- May 22nd : (42 votes)
    63 %
    Sunday Afternoon One Week Before THE WEDDING (Aug. 2 for an Aug 8 wedding) : (25 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 2
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Jamichristine05:  Nooo… do NOT do your shower the week before your wedding. You WILL have last minute things to do, but more importantly, you should just be trying to be calm! It’s not time for a party! Plus, at least for me as a guest I’d find it too expensive. I generally don’t think to buy gifts until shortly before the event. So if you have a shower a month before, it’s better for my budget. Otherwise the shower gift + wedding gift becomes a burden. 

    Friday night will be fine. Have it be heavy appietizers instead of dinner. Start at like 7. Showers don’t go long anyway. Or else do something easy like a stuffed baked potato bar! She can do the potatoes in a crockpot. Everything else can be preped ahead of time and just laid out in little bowls for people to plop on themselves. To beef it up  and you can have additional crock pots with meat or chili options. 

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If the rest of your guests aren’t travelling and you’ll be there anyway, do it a week before the wedding.  We got married Sunday of Memorial Day weekend and my shower was on that Saturday (yes, the day before).  I didn’t want to ask anyone else to travel twice for the shower, or have to choose what they could attend.  We had brunch at a nice restaurant, very low key.  It was really nice to be able to relax and hang out with my friends and family.  I even wrote all my thank-you’s that afternoon and had them in the mail before the wedding.  It was a nice distraction from just sitting around and worrying about everything else.  If you’re busybusybusy up to the minute the wedding starts, you’re doing it wrong.  

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Any week is better than the week before your wedding.  So Memorial Day weekend it is!

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee

    I’m getting married Memorial day weekend so I don’t see it as a problem 😉

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I had one of my showers (my side and friends), and my bachelorette party the Saturday before Labor Day. My sister (MOH) organized it all and sent out Save the Date emails around memorial Day, just to give people a heads up. I also polled some friends who I knew would have to travel, to see if that weekend would even work. It’s hard finding a time that works for everyone! It worked out, and a few friends that I wish would have been able to make it couldn’t… but that’s OK.

    Plus, having both the same day didn’t force out of town friends to have to come back for a bachelorette party later on. Even if they may need to get a place to stay for both nights, it probably just works better for everyone.

    I’d go Memorial weekend, as having it right before your wedding seems like it might be too much – especially when you’re seeing these guests that same week.

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  Kacie209.
    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    i think either sounds fine so i would defer to what works best for your hostess. that said, i’m having a bridal shower (though more a cocktail party than a traditional shower) on the thursday evening before my saturday wedding. the hostess is out of town, and will be there then for it and my out of town fmil, grandmother and moh will all be there thursday on for the wedding. so it can work! it’s not stressing me out at all, i think it will be great 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Jamichristine05:  anytime I’ve been to a wedding for an Out of Town bride the shower always seems to be the Sunday before the wedding and it’s what I generally expect.

    Friday night seems odd to me for a bridal shower for some reason – it feels like a Sunday afternoon activity.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee

    I would do it Friday. It is inevitable that some won’t be able to make it since they will be out of town for the weekend but I wouldn’t do it the week before your wedding. I was trying to squeeze in last minutes engagement photos that would only take an hour the weekend before the wedding and ended up canceling because I had so much to do and was so stressed. When you are that busy even something fun is stressful and I wouldn’t want to feel that way about my shower. 

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Memorial Day weekend. Never do a bridal shower only a week before the wedding 🙂

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Definitely Memorial Day weekend!

    Post # 13
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    2069 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I don’t think you will get much attendance the Friday night of memorial day weekend. It depends on who is on your guest list I suppose but IMO people won’t want to attend on the start of the holiday weekend even if they aren’t traveling.

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