Bridal shower with hardly any local guests

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2444 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think it’s gift-grabby 

Post # 3
3010 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think a virtual shower would be extremely awkward and hard to coordinate. What does this even entail, all the guests Skyping in at the same time? I would find this very strange if I got an invite and I know this isn’t your intention but I would 100% think it was a gift grab. 

How many local guests would you have? Could your mom just throw a small shower?

Post # 4
4779 posts
Honey bee

That would be a big pass from me if I got an invitation to one. 

I think it’s one thing to Skype in a sibling who is overseas in the military or grandma in the nursing home unable to travel.  But basically a conference call of people to “have fun” and watch you open presents?  At least I assume that’s what you are saying when you say virtual shower instead of meaning invite people to mail you a present to “be included” (no one wants to be included in that way).  I barely tolerate video conferencing for business purposes.

I get that your mom has some FOMO going on there, but thems the breaks.  

Post # 6
4779 posts
Honey bee

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emmzsea : 5 to 10 people is a perfectly respectable size. 90% of the showers I have attended have been a dozen people or less in someone’s living room. They’re intended to be intimate gatherings.

Post # 8
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I get where your mom is coming from, but a virtual party is reaching too far; it would just be too weird and awkward for everyone involved lol. I would definitely rather go for the small shower for whiever is able to attend in person. For what its worth, I think that would be way more fun anyway!

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