(Closed) Bridal shower with only a honeymoon registry?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 33
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I may do a seperate registry or list items that people get get that I can transport. ie bedsheets.


OP there are many judgemental bees on here but I’m in a similar boat because I have no way to transport traditional gifts, I’ll be having a shower so thinking i need a seperate list of items.

Post # 34
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it’ll be fine. Gifts don’t have to be to focal point =) Our co-ed bridal shower (re-named “pre-hitching shindig”) involved a lot of ‘minute to win-it’ type games. The only ‘traditional’ game we did was the newspaper wedding dress… only the ladies had to make a newspaper tux and the men had to make the wedding dress. We also did the ‘newlywed game’ — only for every answer one of us got wrong we got water-ballooned.

It was pretty fun… and normally I strongly dislike bridal showers. I’m excited to hear how yours turns out!

(That’s my sister and friend… they make newspaper look good!)

Post # 35
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I like the idea of a cruise ship theme. But the suggestion that some bees have made about registering for her – I find that really weird. If I found out that my friend had thrown a party for me and then sent out a list of things to buy me to the guests I would be really upset. I would feel like she had made me look greedy, and all for things I didn’t even want. 

Post # 36
117 posts
Blushing bee

Rude and they would not receive a gift.

Post # 37
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - Wyckoff, NJ

@michiru4ever:  I had mine on Sunday!  It was so much fun!  We had about 50 people and everyone had a great time.  

I did have a small traditional registry and got almost everything from it.  We also got a number of really amazing thoughtful gifts from family & friends that I adore.  On top of that , people loved the convenience of Honeyfund and most of which know how important travel is in my family.  We wound up with over $3200 toward our honeymoon!!!!

I’m waiting for my mother to send me the pictures of the Mexican themed party so I can share!

Post # 39
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Bumping this.




I don’t get why asking for honeymoon gifts is rude.  Spend whatever you’d spend on a gift!  One may be more socially acceptable, but why is that a problem?


I’m 30 and I own a home.  I don’t have many home items left to buy, except for furniture (too expensive for shower items, mostly!). Over the years I’ve bought nearly everything I need and due to a wonderful gift from my uncle, I have all the stemware I need.


We registered for a few things here and there that we want.  Nothing big.   Enough to cover a shower.  


There is so much pressure to put down more stuff! 


The fact of the matter is the stuff I have yet to buy is really expensive and can’t be put on a registry (it can, via amazon’s registry, but people would be pissed if they saw me asking for something expensive like that).  


Why sign up for things you won’t use?  


I ask this because though I have registered for a handfull of gifts, only really enouhg to cover a bridal shower.  Not enough items to cover a wedding.  So by the wedding, there won’t be much on the registry.  People may be pissed that I didn’t register for enough, and decide to give me nothing.  That would be a shame, but would registering for something I don’t need really be an improvement?  






Post # 40
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Just opinion but people will still bring gifts. I was at a bridal party today where the bride only listed their honey fund registry & 80% of guests still brought gifts, and every brought at least a card. We’re planning on doing a honey fund to but you should know some people aren’t comfortable with that. So unless you want a bunch of random stuff it’s smart to still make a registry 

Post # 40
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I don’t really understand why people cannot have a bridal shower if they choose to go a different route with their registry. I thought honeymoon funds were set up online so you wouldn’t necessarily bring cash to give towards it anyhow so it should be obvious you arent having one to get cash. 

In some cultures, it’s not customary to receive actual gifts but rather gold coins. We will have an engagement party, henna night and the wedding and I will receive gold at each event. I am American but my fiancés is Turkish and this is part of their traditions and culture. How well you know the brIDE and groom even dictates how much gold you should be given.

For the Anerican aspect of our engagement/wdding activities, I will have a bridal shower and at this time I am unsure if we will register because I am not yet sure how to get all those gifts in my luggage to my home in Istanbul. If I follow correctly what some of the “super” traditionalists seem to say on this thread then its rude for me to have a bridal shower and NOT request gifts?? Seems a bit unfair to me. I live a 15 hour plane ride from my friends and family and a bridal shower is one of the few times all those people will converge at once in those few times leading up to my wedding that I will visit. To me, a bridal shower is a chance to shower the bride with well wishes and love and advice. Who cares if there are gifts involved. 

It is funny to me that many people are quick to point out that etiquette dictates you should not write where you are registered on your invitation but to have people rely on word of mouth. And if you really want to write it down then to do so on your engagement website if you have one, but definitely not on the first page because again that is considered rude and is unacceptable because you will seem gift grabby. Yet these same people say a shower is strictly to shower the bride with actual physical gifts and if gifts will not be given at the shower then don’t have one. i am bewildered to say the least with this type of thinking. 

Post # 41
2 posts
  • Wedding: April 2017

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classyashley :  LOL troll much? I guess we all have a different way of looking at these things…I have only been to one wedding where they registered for their honeymoon and frankly I was thankful for it! It was convenient, unique, and got me thinking about going on a vacation 🙂

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