(Closed) Bridal Shower Woes- Need Advice and Support.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1681 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Ventyventvent:  On the plus side. About half of our guests RSVP’d the morning of or morning AFTER they were do. So there is still hope for you!

And your family will forget about being upset. They’re just trying to make you happy. In the ways that they think should make you happy. (aka, throwing a shower against your will)


I’m so sorry this hurts you 🙁 There’s nothing anyone can say to make it better, but you have every right ot be upset and feel hurt. Some of us are just cursed with disfunctional families. I’m embarrassed to see history repeat itself with my shower too. Only I’m the opposite. My mother favors me. I hate it. I always fight with her over it. It’s embarrassing and awful. I was 18 when my sister got married. I hosted, paid for, and cooked for her shower which was at a nice social hall in a local trailer park. My mom acted like she did everything, though she did nothing but cause trouble. Flash forward to my shower… my mom is spending close to $1000 to host it at a nice restaurant.. Ugh. Can’t we have “normal” families??? 

Post # 4
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Ventyventvent:  wait, so your godmother is telling you to stop being so competitive with your sister but also wants to throw you a larger party to “show [her] up?” I’m confused by this.

If people want to come to your shower, they will.  It has nothing to do with your sister. You can’t control what she does or what other people do to/with her- you can only control yourself.  Throw yourself a great party and enjoy it with the people who want to celebrate with you.

Post # 6
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would just go and enjoy the nice party your godmother has tried to throw for you. She sounds like she only wants the best. Don’t worry about how many people show up. Those that do show up are the ones that love and care about you, and there is no better group to have at a party than those ones.

Post # 7
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Ventyventvent:  I totallt get your need to vent. Life can be pretty hurtful sometimes can’t it? I had quite a few ppl rsvp the night before or even the morning of my shower…so there’s still hope that more ppl will arrive. Try and stay positive and maybe post something really positive on facebook about how excited you are for the shower?

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