Post # 1
So bees, tomorrow is my shower! I’m just wondering how I’m supposed to open a card that has money in it in front of everyone. What do I say to not make it sound tacky or cheesy? “This is a gift from so and so?”
Also, do I state the relation of people as I’m opening gifts? For example:
“This is from FI’s aunt/grandmother/friend, etc” Or do I just say the name??? Confused!
I just don’t want to offend or upset anyone tomorrow! THANKSSSS!!!!
Post # 3
@1112bride: I didn’t get any cash at a shower – usually people will bring actual gifts. I did get a few gift cards, so it was easy to say, this is from Aunt Mary, “ooo a [store] gift card, I can’t wait to use it!”
For my shower, I would read the card and say, “This is from ____” And then open the gift and then descibe it if it isn’t obvious. If there is no physical gift, I would probably open/read the card and then look at Aunt Mary and say. “Thanks so much, Aunt Mary. I have a few ideas how I might use this.” but I don’t know. Others might have better suggestions.
Post # 4
I don’t have any good answers as my shower is coming up soon and I have been wondering the same kinds of things.Thanks for posting this – I am interested to see other bees’ responses!
I am slightly terrified of getting lingerie and what am I supposed to do with that, especially with my mom and FI’s mom there?! Do I have to take it out of the bag or is there a graceful way to say thank you without showing everyone?! I would be SO red!
I hope it all goes smoothly and you have a wonderful time!
Post # 5
Mine is tomorow too! Most brides go “Thank you, that was so generous” smile, next gift. I am nervous- it will be alot of presents to give a smile and thanks for! and what if its something strange?!?!?
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
If I opened a card with money in it or a check or even a gift card I’d probably just wave the card around and jokingly say “Ooohh, MONEY!!” I would, of course, never state the amount out loud. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. And yes, I would probably state the relation to the gift-giver. After reading the card I would say “ok this next gift is from Pam, FI’s aunt”, especially if not everyone knows each other. For friends though, it might sound weird. “This gift is from Susie, my friend”. Haha…that sounds awkward. But I’m no expert in etiquette so I hope some other bees chime in! Have fun at your shower!!
Post # 7
Oh, and in regards to saying who the gift is from, my showers weren’t more than 12 people or so, so I made sure everyone was introduced to everyone before I opened gifts, and then just said whatever came naturally, usually it was just the person’s name. If you have a bigger group, I don’t think it would be strange to say, “This is from my mom’s friend Wilma”
Post # 8
You can just open the card and say “Thank you X”. So people know that they gave something and the guest is acknowledged.
Have fun at your shower tomorrow!
Post # 9
I would say name and relation. Something like this:
This crockpot is from my Aunt Mary! Thank you Aunt Mary!
This picture frame is from FI’sNAME’s Aunt Joline! Thank you Aunt Joline!
Also, someone is usually writing down the gifts and who gave them to you, so saying what it is and who gave it to you and the relationship helps because then the person can take it all down without having to keep looking up at you. And, if there are 2 Marys giving gifts, clarifying the relationship will help “Aunt Mary” vs “FI’s Aunt Mary” etc.
If you get cash or a gift card, I would just skip the “This is from” part and go “Thank you Aunt Mary for the generous gift!” Keeping the money in the card would be enough to remind you who gave what.
I think it’s useful to keep a list for the thank you cards.
Post # 10
@Breen86: Have so much fun!!!
Ladies Thank you for your well wishes and advice!!!
Post # 11
Opening the gifts in front of people was so awkward, I hated it. When I came across a gift with cash or a gift card I just said “thank you x” and everyone pretty much figured out what was happening.