(Closed) Bridal Shower/Etiquette Help Please! :)

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should I have 2 bridal showers?
    Yes! This makes it easier for everyone to attend. : (22 votes)
    92 %
    No! Have one and people can travel. : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 2
    208 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I’m having two showers, one nearby where we are getting married, and one in conneticut where a lot of my family is from.  My cousin offered to throw the second one since she knew she wouldn’t be able to attend the other one since we are 6 hours away and is at the end of the school year.

    Post # 3
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee

    stevielee:  Having 2 bridal showers is not rude. However, ASKING for 2 bridal showers is rude. You should not ask anyone to throw you a bridal shower. If your MOH’s in each state offered to throw you a bridal shower in their state, then you should happily accept. 

    Post # 4
    2942 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would just make sure to have minimal cross over on your guest list.  BMs, your mom, Mother-In-Law, and any sister or SILs not in the wedding party are the only ones I would invite to both.  Everyone else limit to one or the other. 

    It’s only bad if you are inviting everyone to both and expecting gifts twice.

    Post # 5
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    I’ve had 3 kids get married in the past 3 years.  Each one had 3-4 showers for differing reasons.  Some had families in a different state, for one it was because after her parents divorce the two families didn’t want to attend together, one of my daughters got engaged when she was still off at school and her school friends had a lingerie shower for her, and in one case two hostessEs wanted to host in their homes so the guest list was split up with friends at one and co workers at another.  Now granted we are from a big family and a smaller community so one big shower might work out for others but I don’t see why it’s offensive, rude or gift grabby if other people would like to throw you a shower.

    Post # 7
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee

    stevielee:  Then perhaps you should edit your post. It still says you are asking for 2 showers

    “I have gotten some feedback that asking for 2 bridal showers is too much”


    Post # 8
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    are people willing to travel for your wedding and not the showers? If not, then I don’t see the harm in two showers for the people who still want to celebrate but wont be able to make the drive. Seems to me I would position it with all the people you plan to invite and see how they feel.

    Post # 9
    528 posts
    Busy bee

    I had two showers for similar reasons – my MOH/MIL/Florida BMs threw me one down here and my stepmom/stepsister who was also a Bridesmaid or Best Man threw me one in South Carolina where they (and a lot of my family) live.  I don’t see any problem with multiple showers as long as there is no guest list overlap and it doesn’t get out of hand (for example, five showers or something – two or three is reasonable though IMO).

    Post # 11
    9673 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    I don’t think its a bad idea. All of FI’s family is from out of town four hours away. I told them I would be happy to make time to come down if they wanted to have an event they didn’t have to travel for. So, I don’t think its awful if someone else is asking to throw it.

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