(Closed) Bridal Shower/Honeyfund registry? What on earth do I bring??

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

And here lies the problem with having a shower when you only have a Honeymoon registry.

Does she have another registry?  You could ask her where else she is registered – there’s nothing wrong or tacky about that. “Hey friend, I’m going to go shopping for your shower gift – where are you registered?  Is there anything specific you want?”

If she is only registered with Honeyfund and doesn’t have anything specific she wants, I would get her stuff for the Honeymoon – things like beach towels, sunscreen, mittens (if going somewhere cold), snacks for the plane, books, etc.  Maybe a tasteful nighty if you’re worried about offending anyone. I personally would not buy anything off of her Honeymoon registry because I dislike them and I don’t like fundraiser showers.

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I just went to a friend’s shower who was registered on Honeyfund and I just brought her one of her Honeyfund gifts and stuck it in a card.  Lots of people did this, and she opened them and read out loud who got her what excursions and such.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

First of all, to throw a party or shower in your own honor is rude to begin with.  Second, Honeymoon registries, in my own personal opinion, are rude as well.  I would probably decline the invitation to this particular event. 

However, if you are a BM/MOH/otherwise feel obligated to attend, get her a gift card & a bottle of wine. 

Post # 6
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5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@hotchildinthecity:  this is what I would do too.

I find it odd she’s hosting her own shower and then only did an Honeymoon registry….but I actually like them for weddings! A friend did that, and it was fun (for me) to look through and decide whether to purchase snorkeling, swimming with dolphins, etc. – even if it was just all going into one pot.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Baimee:  Why not just purchase something from her Honeymoon registry? She registered for gifts, just like anyone else, so how is that different?

If you are deadset on not purchasing anything for the Honeymoon registry, I like the idea of other things she could use for the Honeymoon.

@DaneLady:  I totally agree that throwing a shower in your own honor is yuuuuucky.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@DaneLady:  clearly manners isn’t the bride’s strong suit. lol

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If she’s registered with honeyfund, then I’d get her something off of that.  She registered there because that’s what she’d like, otherwise she’d have registered somewhere else.  I totally think it’s fine to just outright ask her what type of shower it is… more risque or toned down, that way you don’t offend anyone there.  I doubt she’d be offended by that type of question.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@hisgoosiegirl: Right?!  The girl I’m talking about actually registered elsewhere as well, but I thought it was fun to buy her shark diving, dammit πŸ˜‰

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@hotchildinthecity:  @hisgoosiegirl: Right?!  The girl I’m talking about actually registered elsewhere as well, but I thought it was fun to buy her shark diving, dammit πŸ˜‰


Ok, so as much as I dislike Honeymoon registries, I’m going to admit that that’s pretty awesome!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

@hotchildinthecity:   exactly. That’s what I would do and that’s what I have seen done. Buy her a gift she registered for from her Honeymoon registry and just put it in the card, (or write it in the card).  

Getting her a tour of the Colosseum or dinner for two on the beach is the same as getting her a toaster or towels from a traditional registry.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I am a bride with a Honeyfund registry, and one of my friends just brought a card with the check in it–nothin’ wrong with that. Two people got me stuff from our other registry (which is quite small, we really don’t need any more “stuff”), but everyone else brought something they thought of themselves..  Others got me things like wine, spa gift cards, tea, etc. My Future Mother-In-Law even got me a Victoria’s Secret gift card!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with PP, if you get something off her Honeymoon registry, just bring a card with a little printout of it. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yeah, I am also not comfortable with Honeymoon registries, especially since most of the ‘excursions’ end up just being checks from the company, minus a fee.  If I want to give the couple money, I give them money, but for me showers are for tangible gifts, so I’d probably get beach towels and a travel guide.

I don’t even want to comment on the bride throwing her own shower and bachelorette parties. 

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