(Closed) Bridal Shower…Registry

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Do you need one?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We registered at Macy’s and Williams-Sonoma. Bed Bath and Beyond and Target are pretty common too.  

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Maid/Matron of Honor just put our regular registry info in with my shower invites. I didn’t realize there was supposed to be a separate registry for the shower…?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you don’t want a registry, I don’t think you need one! People will probably still get you gifts, but if people ask where you are registered, you could just go for something simple like, “We decided not to register because we already have what we need. We just want to celebrate with you!” Would something like that work? :]

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Based on what you described, I would simply decline having a shower.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Register at Macy’s for at least 25-50 things you want to upgrade or replace. You may not need anything, but you don’t want people to guess what you need. You’ll quickly wish you had given input.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Either do what Pollywog said or decline a shower. The purpose of a shower is to “shower” the bride with gifts.

If you just want a luncheon to celebrate with the ladies in your life, have a bridal luncheon. Don’t call it a shower though so people get the hint that gifts aren’t necessary. If people ask where you are registered, say you have everything you need for your household and just want them to come celebrate at the luncheon with you.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Honu:  no problem! totally understand! I was iffy about doing a registry too, because we have lived together for almost 4 years, but then is mom said if there were things we wanted to upgrade, or things we wouldn’t buy for ourselves, we should register for them. When I started looking around my house, I realized that maybe we could use a matching set of dishes and glasses, instead of the hand-me-downs we were using! That led into registering for some other kitchen stuff and random things we could use around the house, but by no means was my registry huge. My bridal shower was on Saturday and it pretty much wiped out the registry (which Fiance is happy about because he wants money for the wedding 🙂 )

Back to you though, I definitely think it is wonderful you want to celebrate with the ladies in your life and I think it is perfectly acceptable to have a luncheon with them to do so. There’s no reason you can’t enjoy the pre-wedding festivities even if you don’t want all the things that come along with it. Be prepared though, I’m sure you’ll still get some random presents from people, even without a registry!

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