(Closed) Bridal Showers and the guest list

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1448 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Some thoughts:

1) Yes, your Maid/Matron of Honor should send the invites anyway.  If they can’t come, they can RSVP no.

2) You can let it be known that there are going to be multiple showers, and that you won’t expect anyone to go to more than one.  That way it won’t look like a gift grab and more like you are so lucky to have so many people that love you and want to host parties for you.  🙂

3) Your parents shouldn’t be offended if FH’s family can only make their shower.  Travel and money is tight for everyone these days.

Post # 4
46607 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, it depends on how much travel is required. I would travel much further for a wedding than I would for a shower.

If I can get there and back on the same day, I would go to the shower.

I would travel further for a shower if I were able to stay with family or a friend. I’m not likely to incur airfare and hotel costs for a shower. I would decline and send a gift.

Post # 5
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Just a thought: I was a bridesmaid for a friend who lives in another state (1000mi away) and it hurt to see Facebook photos of a shower I did not know even existed, let alone was invited to. There is no way I could have afforded to attend, but had I even been made aware of the shower, I would have sent a gift. But everyone involved assumed that since I lived far away, I wasn’t interested. They were wrong.

I say invite them to both and let the travel decisions be made up to them. But someone else’s idea of spreading the word that there being more than one shower is a great idea on top of that.

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