Post # 1
Need some advice!
Two of my aunts offered to co-host my shower as soon as we announced our engagement. It was so nice of them, I just couldn’t help accepting their offer. My Maid/Matron of Honor seemed a little disappointed at first when I told her later on that my aunts were throwing the shower, but she seemed to get over it fairly quickly. Long story short, it turns out that she can’t come to the shower my aunts are throwing (she had purchased extremely expensive 3-day festival passes and it just so happens to be the weekend of my shower. They’re non-refundable and she cannot sell them. That’s a whoooole ‘nother can of worms!!!) I was really disappointed, and she was too, so she offered to throw a second shower for the “younger crowd”. I took her up on her offer — and so I will be having two showers.
The question is, do I still invite the “younger crowd” to the shower thrown by my aunts? Because that will be the main shower and the one where gifts will be given (the second shower will be themed, and most likely no gifts, or gifts under $10 like undies or something). I don’t want to seem greedy, and I feel like I wouldn’t even be having a second shower if it weren’t for my Maid/Matron of Honor being unable to attend the original shower. It won’t be many people, I don’t have a ton of girlfriends, and I’ll probably tell them in advance that there will be 2 showers. Still, I feel a little unsure of what to do!
Anyone else having a main shower and then a second, smaller, “younger crowd” shower as well? Help!
Post # 3
My Maid/Matron of Honor is giving me a shower and is the only female in my wedding party or the only one on my side we are having a very small wedding! My church is giving me a shower where my fmil is hosting along with the church. My side is helping with my Maid/Matron of Honor shower so I wasnt having one on my fil side until yesterday when a 2nd cousin wanted to do it so they could be invited to one. So now I feel like 3 is waaaay to many and now my MOHs party is about to be out of hand!
If I were in you situation I would do the reg gifts at your aunts and a more naughty nighty party for your younger crawd!
Post # 4
Is there any way that the shower your aunts are throwing can be more for your family/friends while your Future Mother-In-Law can throw a shower for your FI’s side of the family?
Post # 5
@cmbr: My FI’s family is really small — his family had a lot of falling outs after the passing of his grandfather — so there wouldn’t be too many people to invite! If his family were normal, this would be a great suggestion!!!!
@khamilton: I think I’ll tell my Maid/Matron of Honor to just make it clear to do no gifts at all or a “naughty” theme with gifts that are under $10 or $15 max.
Thanks for the advice, bees!
Post # 6
@starz88962: I think any shower over 1 is too much, tbh. Why not ask your Maid/Matron of Honor to organise a brunch where you guys play a few party games instead of a shower? I know it’s sad that she can’t make it, but you don’t need a second shower and I don’t think two showers will really work. Your Maid/Matron of Honor should host a fun get together for your girlfriends in lieu of a shower and accept that unfortunately, we can’t be there for everything.
Post # 7
@BridieBea: I don’t really want the second shower, and I wouldn’t be having one if my Maid/Matron of Honor could make it to the original shower.
It seemed like my Maid/Matron of Honor wanted to make it up to me by throwing one, so I accepted her offer. It won’t really be a full-blown shower, I think it will be like you said, a brunch where we will play games and socialize. I completely agree with you, more than one shower is too much.
Post # 8
You can have 2 showers, but people should be invited to one or the other, not both.
Or, you can just ask your Maid/Matron of Honor to throw an awesome bachelorette!
im having 2 showers as I think 50 people at one shower is too many and I won’t get to see and talk to everyone. But mine was a natural split. Family/friends and sorority.