Post # 1
My Mother-In-Law just informed me that her family friend wants to throw me a shower. (My Maid/Matron of Honor is also throwing one.) She wanted to know what type of shower I wanted. I had no idea what she meant and then she suggested kitchenware, linens, misc…
I have two anxieties about this…
1. How do I get past the feeling that the shower is just a gift grab. I don’t know any of these people (other than MIL) and the thought of sitting with a bunch of strangers, getting gifts makes me break into a sweat.
2. Fiance is selling his house and we are already combining households. We are already faced with dealing with 2 crockpots, 2 blenders, 10 sets of bedsheets, etc…
I don’t think I can talk her out of it, it would really hurt her feelings. But, how should I approach this? I worry about coming across as awkward and ungrateful when it isn’t the case.
We are going to do some home improvements and wanted to save for a bedroom set, but I don’t think their idea of a shower really would include those kinds of gifts, for gift certificates, etc…
Post # 3
My Future Mother-In-Law is throwing me one and I won’t know the majority of people – I think of it as an opportunity for my Future Mother-In-Law to throw a party and give people a chance to get to know me, with the added bonus of gifts.
We also have a lot of duplicate stuff, but there are still tons of stuff out there that I’d like to have or like upgraded, so that’s what made it onto our gift registry.
Personally, I like the idea of theme bridal showers with themes like each invitee gets a time of day or a room of the house, so it isn’t like you only get kitchen stuff or bedroom stuff, but there still is a cute theme associated with it.
Post # 4
How about doing a theme like a kitchen utensil and recipe shower? That way, guests don’t have to spend a ton of money, but they can come and get to know you better, which I think is what your Mother-In-Law is going for.
Post # 5
I didn’t look at it from that angle, I bet that is exactly why she is going that route. I just feel like we have so much stuff. Fiance had a ton of new utensils and kitchen gear, more than what I had, and I am trying hard to think of something else we could aim for.
I guess we should look at doing a registry. It’s still not something I see a lot of people here do and I haven’t totally felt comfortable for the idea.
I usually hate bridal showers, so I think part of me just feels guilty that I am making people go to one; especially people who don’t even know me!
I really wish there was a home improvement category for showers! It could help build our deck!
Post # 6
You could have a bring your favorite recipe party, where they fill a recipe box up. That would be something neat, but wouldn’t feel like a gift grab.