Post # 1
We got engaed Feb 2015 and we FINALLY can start venue hunting, etc. 🙂 After realizing that our wedding budget is pretty tight(we are paying for everthing) we now decided that we will not have 6 BM’s and 6 Groomsmen. I am going to have a Maid/Matron of Honor (my childhood friend) and his Bridesmaid or Best Man will be his childhood friend and my 12 yr old daughter will be my Jr Bridesmaid.
My question is have you had this arrangement for your wedding – or also having this arrangement? Are they planning the shower/bachelorette party on their own or are other friends helping? (If you even know). My fear is that too much responsibility falls then on one person(MOH) to plan wedding shower and bachelorette party and I do not want her to stress out. My cousin said when we got engaged she has first dibs on my wedding shower and my aunt also so I am not sure how to get that communciation started with them , to not seem selfish in wanting a wedding shower w. not having all of my friends stand up etc.
Post # 2
I think it should be fine. I don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor but I have 4 BMs. 1 of my BMs is getting married 2 months before me and 2 of my BMs are also in her wedding as am I. So they are all focusing on her wedding (hers comes first so it’s understandable) so they haven’t really thought about mine at all yet – Well the 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man that’s not in the other wedding has and has been a huge help! But my Bridal shower in a few weeks is being planned by my family members.
Post # 3
When my mom remarried she only had a Maid/Matron of Honor. For a bachelorette party, she got a bunch of co-workers, other friends, and her Maid/Matron of Honor (which was her sister), they decided to rent a limo, go to a casino, see a show, gamble a little, have dinner, and then go to a bar. Of course, all of these people were invited to the wedding.
I’m not sure exactly who planned it, I’m assuming the people from work contacted my aunt and arranged something all together.
Could you talk to your family and see if they’d be willing to help organize something? I’m sure they would love to help out.
EDIT: Could you have your Maid/Matron of Honor reach out to them and ask for help? Something along the lines of “I’m planning the Bachelorette party and was wondering if you’d like to help me plan.”
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2016 - Liberty House
My friend was in a similar situation. She had her sister as the Maid/Matron of Honor, and that’s it. Her sister planned the bridal shower, but we all chipped in to pay for it, and all of us (amongst her friends) helped plan the bachelorette. I didn’t mind not standing up with her, because I was just happy to get to watch her get married! 🙂
Post # 5
My bridesmaids actually didn’t plan my showers at all. Where I live it’s typical for the ladies in the family to host the showers. Two aunts on my side planned one shower and two aunts on my husbands side planned the other shower. My Maid/Matron of Honor organized a get together for us a few weeks before the wedding because neither of us wanted to bachelor or bachelorette party.
Post # 6
My Maid/Matron of Honor is leading the organization of both the shower and bachelorette, but with some serious help from my SIL and a lot of overall financial assistance from my mother.
I had my mom step in to avoid the BMs spending too much. Around here it is quite normal for BMs to spend $1k+, and I wanted to avoid that, as I didn’t want my wedding to become a financial hassle for anyone.
Post # 7
futurebrideesq: citygirl828: FutureMrsBex: smoocheepoo:
Thank you ladies for your feedback!! The good thing about my Maid/Matron of Honor being my childhood friend, is that she knows most of my family so her reaching out to my cousin re: the shower etc will not be so awkward, I imagine. Insert the size of my familily and u will see why I am cutting large wedding expenses = my mom was one of SIXTEEN kids. So with my family alone that is 88 guests already —-Sadly my mom passed away 10 years ago – but with a big family comes a lot of love. I am pretty sure my Fiance sister will throw a little shower on his side as well.