(Closed) bride and groom at the cocktail hour?

posted 12 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We plan joining the cocktail hour because like you we are doing pictures prior to the ceremony so a few after the ceremony so we should have time for an appearance at the cocktail hour.  We are still be introduced at the reception.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve been to weddings where the bride and groom were at the cocktail hour but they weren’t announced.  In fact, it took us all by surprise and people basically accosted them!  I don’t even know if they were able to do much more than have a glass of champagne, let alone eat.  We’re not going to go to the cocktail hour though I’ll probably feel like I’m missing out on something fun.  But we’ll get a server to give us all the food while we’re getting our pictures taken.  We chose this because we wanted a lil more excitement when we’re announced into the reception.  So excited!!!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We (FI, wedding party and I) will be in a ‘holding room’ during cocktail hour and will be served hor’deourves and drinks in there (so we aren’t famished) but want to make sure our grand entrance is indeed grand. 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We won’t be at all of our cocktail hour, but will probably be there toward the end.  I look at it as a great head start on getting to talk to the people who are at the wedding.  I have been thinking about having the introductions when we arrive, kind of a get it done and over with thing, but don’t know how well it will work.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I think it would be very strange for the couple to skip the cocktail hour. For one thing, it’s the time when everyone mingles before dinner so why wouldn’t the couple want to attend so that their guests can congratulate them? The guests will probably be looking for the couple as well at that time. Also, alot of people tend to say that the cocktail hour food is much better than the actual dinner itself so wouldn’t the couple want to take part in it as well and be able to eat the food they ordered that everyone else raves about? 

As far as announcements, I have never seen them done at a reception in real life so I can’t say for certain. But honestly, they seem really odd and redundant if everyone has attended the ceremony, which most do. It comes across like the guests don’t know who the couple is unless the dj makes the announcement and it’s difficult to miss someone in a white dress and the guy at her side. 

 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We went to our cocktail hour (too much yummy food to miss that!), but we didn’t get introduced at any point.  I’ve never particularly liked the introductions so I didn’t want to do that anyhow.

If you do want to be introduced, I would think it would be best to do it when you arrive at the cocktail hour.  It seems like it might be odd to be introduced after everyone’s been talking with you.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Personally, I think the whole idea of “introducing” the bride and groom is just odd.  Um, everyone knows us or else they wouldn’t have been invited?  And you’re introduced as “husband and wife” at the end of the ceremony anyways.  Weird. 

Anywho, yes, we’ll be at the end of the cocktail hour after we do some pictures; and we won’t be doing introductions.  Instead, we will welcome everyone to the reception as the salad course is being served.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

We skipped our cocktail hour and did pictures.  After pictures, we spent those last few minutes (maybe 15 or so) of the cocktail hour alone, sipping drinks and munching on little plates of food from the cocktail hour.  I wouldn’t have changed a thing – it was so nice to relax, just the two of us, before heading in to the reception.  It worked for us!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

We’re going to be getting our pictures taken during the cocktail hour and then we’re going to be introduced at the reception.  Right before we’re introduced they are going to whisk us into a holding room for cocktails and appetizers.

I don’t know that it would be anti-climatic when they announce you at the reception, but I do think you’ll be mobbed and won’t really get to enjoy the cocktail hour.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re doing photos during our cocktail hour, but our plan is to make it to at least the last 15 minutes of our cocktail hour (actually 1.5 hours).  We wouldn’t want to completely miss our own cocktail hour.  I want me a drink and hopefully some tasty hors d’oevres!  We don’t have the same problem as you though b/c we’re not planning on being introduced.  It’s just not a part of the wedding reception that my Fiance and I really like, so we’re doing away with it.  Instead we’re going to lead a grand procession down the hill from our cocktail hour to the tent where the rest of the reception will take place 🙂

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We took all our photos before the ceremony – just so we wouldn’t miss the cocktail hour!    We had our ceremony and reception at the same venue (so, this might be a bit different for those who have to travel between locations), so after the ceremony we took a walk 50 feet to the side garden, took two family photos…and then made our way to the patio for the cocktail hour.  We loved mingiling with the guests and it gave us extra time to chat with everyone that had traveled so far to celebrate with us!

Near the end of cocktail hour, we made our way to the bridal suite (just off the reception area), where my mom took two minutes to bustle my dress and my husband and I had time to chat for a few minutes.    Then we were introduced (just the two of us) and we went straight into our first dance.  

I didn’t really think it was anti-climatic to attend cocktail hour, everyone has already seen us…and missing spending time with my friends and family just wasn’t worth it to me.   I don’t think anyone thought it was strange.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’ll be doing a first look and taking the majority of our pictures before the ceremony. Our cocktail hour immediately follows our ceremony and we plan to attend as much as we can. We will also be formally “announced” when we enter the reception. Personally, I love when the bride and groom are at cocktail hour. Plus, you’ll get to see many of your guests then and spend more time eating/dancing during the reception!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

we had a first look before the ceremony and took our couple photos then. we took formal portraits in a corner of the terrace where cocktail hour was being held, so guests / family could mingle when they weren’t needed for pix. we got to spend about 30 minutes or more of cocktail hour eating / drinking / mingling with guests as a result – since it was a natural transition post photos to join the cocktail hour. that was the intention. we actually led the party from the ceremony to the cocktail location. we didn’t want to be formally introduced so that all worked out fine.

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