Bride and Groom serving guests meals. Thoughts?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
5885 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

How many guests? This sounds like a disaster tbh and probably why you can’t find anyone else who has done this. Cold food, spilling, long waits. You need wait staff to serve guests properly or a hot buffet.

A receivining line is a much better idea. 


**Also, I hate someone else putting food on my plate at a buffet. This is a wedding, not a school cafeteria. Guests could think that you’re trying to save $/portion everything by giving them their sides. Just welcome them at the entrance and let them fill their plates themselves.

**Checked a prior post where you are expecting close to 90 guests, and in 2 weeks.  It’s a bad idea.

Post # 3
4723 posts
Honey bee

I think it will be a disaster with long waits for food while people chat with you. 

Post # 4
1253 posts
Bumble bee

I think this will be extremely awkward and rude tbh. As a guest, I’d want to properly greet you and not just be like “Hi” grab a plate and move on. But at the same time, the last thing I’d wanna do is hold up the line while other people are starving. So one way or another, I’d feel like I’m being rude by either delaying other’s meal or by not meeting the bride and groom properly.

It’s your wedding, not a soup kitchen. The sentiment is nice I suppose but I do not think it’s gonna play out in your favor. 

Post # 5
3723 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Agree with PP. This is a terrible idea. I dont want to chit chat with you as you spoon food onto my plate. I want to quickly get what I want and sit down so everyone else behind me can get their food too. Instead of a recieving line, just stop by guests’ tables as they eat. That way you can quickly say hi but not make it awkward. A quick “Hi thank you so much for celebrating with us today! We hope you’re enjoying your food and we hope to see you out on the dance floor later!” will suffice.

Post # 6
5002 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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fargonon :  Let people enjoy the food and allow them the time in line to decide what they want to try from your buffet. They probably don’t want to make rushed small talk in their Sunday best whilst holding a plate of food.

If you want to spend time personally talking to guests  to acknowledge their effort and time in supporting you both on your day make a plan as a couple to do the rounds of each table and spend ten minutes with each table having chat. We did that and were able to see and say thanks to everyone of our guests. Our reception was 5 hours long and we did that and still had time to eat, drink, dance and be merry. 

Post # 7
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Omg you would be holding up the line. I would get so upset.

Post # 8
1404 posts
Bumble bee

Honestly the wedding can focus on the Lord but if you’re hosting a party the focus needs to be on the guests. As PPs have mentioned, this is a recipe for disaster. No wedding guest wants to wait on line and be served like they’re in the middle school cafeteria. 

Post # 9
1381 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2021

Are you having a wedding ceremony with communion? My sister attended a wedding where the bride and groom presented the host to their guests and she said it was extremely powerful. 


Post # 11
718 posts
Busy bee

One little old lady who’s feeling particularly chatty will throw off the entire meal service. The sentiment is beautiful, but I don’t think this will work.


Edited to add: It doesn’t matter if you are handing out plates, serving salad or carving a roast – if this lineup also acts as a receiving line, there will be hold ups and delays as people congratulate and chat with you. It’s the nature of the line. Allow people to serve themselves and keep the line moving.

Post # 12
957 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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fargonon :  as I guest, I’d prefer to have your whole attention at the receiving line, not to feel like “you are handed a plate and please start moving.” Later you can go to their tables where they are comfortable and say more thanks.

Post # 13
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I agree with pp.  Your heart is in a beautiful place with this idea. However, this isn’t the best execution. One thing you DON’T want to disturb is anything to do with the meal. Leave it alone. Greet your guests after dinner make your rounds to the tables during dessert or something.  

Post # 15
8374 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

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fargonon :  I am also a Christian and think that your motives are lovely. However, I have to tell you that trying to talk to each person at every table before that table is permitted to go to the buffet is not very likely to work.

We had our venue for five hours, including our 1 hour and 10 minute ceremony. When you factor in us taking a short break after the ceremony, guests enjoying the hors d’oeuvres hour and our taking pictures, us and our parents and bridal party being announced at the reception, our first dance, my dance with my father and his dance with his mother, my needing to use the restroom a few times and having to factor in dealing with a ballgown, and our cake cutting — I barely had a chance to greet a small number of my 150 guests.

I think you are underestimating the time it would take to greet 90 people at their tables before their food service can take place and how far into the night this would take for people to get their food.

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