(Closed) Bride and Groom sleep together?

posted 10 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

Well I think in many cases it IS religious or moral – perhaps they have never slept together and are waiting to experience that as husband and wife. But for others (those who are living together or have spent the night at each other’s places plenty), it’s more of a tradition.


On this site I found that  "<font face=”Verdana” size=”2″>The tradition of "hiding" the bride from the groom, prior to the wedding, comes from the days of arranged marriages when a wedding was merely a business deal between fathers. Things like love and attraction on the part of the bride and groom had nothing to do with it. The groom saw the bride, for the first time, when she walked down the aisle and a veil covered her face. After the minister pronounced them man and wife, the groom then lifted the veil, not only to kiss the bride, but also to see the face he would be waking up to for the rest of his life."</font>


That’s not so much about the sleeping together, but seeing each other in general.


This yahoo answers provides people’s various opinions about it.


Some people say it’s ‘bad luck’. From my own point of view, I’ve always assumed it was for the shock value. It’s just another way to make the wedding day different from others. So that not only are you getting married, but you’re coming back together after an absence from each other (and absence makes the heart grow fonder, ya know). I have also heard of brides/grooms who already have had sex abstaining for a time period before the wedding. Two weeks, a month, etc without sex, and so they’re very excited by the time the wedding night comes around. 

Post # 4
631 posts
Busy bee

For us, it was just sort of a fun anticipation type thing.  It was also a night for me to hang with my girlfriends and female relatives, which is also part of the tradition of the night-before I think…

Post # 5
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My FH and I will not be sleeping in the same room the night before the wedding, but it’s not a religious or moral choice. I’ll be spending the night with my bridal party, and he’ll be staying with his family. We also like the idea of seeing each other for the very first time that day as I’m coming down the aisle. I love the idea of all the anticipation and excitement. 🙂

Post # 6
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree.  I think it’s all about heightening the excitement.  I think the anticipation will make it that much more exciting.  Fiance is Catholic and the church frowns on us staying together.  His priest insistes that if the couple lives together (which we do) that they should move apart 2 months prior to the wedding.  I don’t know how he landed on this number.  Fiance wants to abide by this (which includes abstinence).  I like the idea of us seperating to make the night more exciting, though 2 moz seems excessive and unnecesary.  Can’t really fight the religious card though…

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