(Closed) Bride and Groom Speeches?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

The traditional order of speeches is as follows:

1. The bride’s father. He gives a gently mocking yet affectionate speech about his daughter etc. If he is the host, he also thanks everyone.

2. The bridegroom. If he is the host, he thanks everyone. If not, he just says a few words and toasts the bridesmaids etc.

3. The best man, who sends up the groom.

4. If you are choosing to have a bride’s speech, the bride speaks last. If she is the hostess, she thanks the people that the groom has forgotten, and says a few words. The bride and groom’s speeches should be written together if they are both choosing to speak, and they are both co-hosting, so that their speeches reflect their joint role as co-hosts.

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@canuckandakiwi:  If I was having a traditional reception, I would totally do a speech. However, I love to talk and love public speaking so it would be a breeze for me. MrPanda99? Not so much. We are writing our own vows, so that will be our “speech.” My parents are tagging along to act as witnesses and I don’t think they need to hear us babble on again at dinner, lol.

To answer your question, you can say whatever you want! I suggest keeping it short and sweet and sticking to a structure. No one particularly enjoys listening to speeches but short, funny yet touching ones are always a nice surprise.

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

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@canuckandakiwi:  No probs! As DH and I were co-hosts, we did the thanks and wrote our speeches so that they complimented each other. We mocked each other in the speeches as well so they echoed each other, and used the same themes.

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We are jointly getting up at thanking our guests For coming, briefly. We eill both speak. The thank you to my family and bridal party will be at the rehearsal dinner. I think it’s a nice thing to do!

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Just a little advice … less is more.  You can thank vendors on the side and with gratuity.  Unless that vendor is family or a friend, I wouldn’t include vendor thank yous in your speech.  

Remember, your guests don’t want to sit through laundry lists of anything.  Less IS more.  

I recently went to a wedding where EVERY member of the wedding party gave a speech.  it was brutal!  And looking around at all the other guests … they thought so too.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@canuckandakiwi:  We did not give speeches at our wedding.  Just at the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@canuckandakiwi:  I plan to give a speech but I will NOT be thanking vendors. I’ll be thanking my family, friends, husband, etc. and I will tell a cute story. Short and sweet!

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re not giving speeches, but my mom, his Dad, his best man, and my Maid/Matron of Honor are.

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

There will be so many speeches at our reception! Both my parents (separately), his parents (maybe together, maybe separately) , my sister (MOH), his brother (BM) and each of us will say something.

I think it’s lovely to hear why the bride or the groom has chosen their partner. Jewish ceremonies don’t have vows, so the reception speech is the only time to share out thoughts.

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2003

The BEST bride and groom speaches are unwritten unrehearsed.  From the heart at the moment doesn’t get better then that.

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Agree to leave the vendors out.  Keep the speech short and sweet, yet personal.  I think speeches really personalize the wedding experience of the guests.  I’ve been so so many weddings where you never hear from the bride or groom (neither during vows nor a speech) and I walk away disappointed.  And feeling like I don’t know anything personal about them.

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