- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
So I am getting married this June, and I could not be more excited! I got engaged last December, so we are having a somewhat long engagement (though surely not as long as some, I know).
My best friend of 10 years JUST got engaged last week. I am over the moon for her and her Fiance, but I have some horrible nagging feelings. They havent even been together a year, and have had quite a few rough spots. I know that not every relationship is perfect, but its hard for me to swallow their engagement when my Fiance and I have been together almost 4 years. And here is the shallowest thing of all (I admit it 🙁 )…. her ring is bigger. I know it shouldnt matter and it doesnt mean anything and all that, but I cant help it! It just bothers me that my Fiance has worked so hard and been through so much, and hers just ups and buys her this huge rock in less than a year. There are differences (mine is platinum, hers is gold, the cut, clarity, etc), but those are things that I dont see when the ring stares at me from across the table.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m excited to have someone understand the exciting times we will both go through. Itll be great to plan and talk together. And she really is my best friend. I feel so horrible admiting this selfishnesses, but I have to get it out somewhere.
Now add on top of that, I am her Maid/Matron of Honor (my twin is mine, otherwise it would be her). I am so excited and am already thinking about her shower. HOWEVER, she wants her wedding to be next August. Yep, thats going to be about 7 weeks after mine. The timing is so hard bc if I want to throw her a shower, bach party, etc., it will either be right before my wedding (even more for me to do!) or less than a few weeks before hers (FI and I are going on a honeymoon right after we get married). I mean, she hasnt even spoken with venues yet but she is so set on next summer.
How do I handle my stupid jealousy and the timing of our weddings? I want to be an amazing Maid/Matron of Honor, but also know I’m going to be doing a TON of things for my own wedding. Not to mention the cost of everything (FI and I are paying for a LOT), plus Fiance and I just bought a house.
Any advice from other bees who have been in this same situation? help!