Post # 77
If she doesn’t seem like she would take constructive criticism well it’s each guest for his/her self… run for the hills and don’t attend! Make up whatever excuse you may deem necessary if she is likely to overreact to an honest reason.
If she’s at all approachable, it would be nice (kindest on everyone, including her) to try to approach her about the topic, privately, in a calm moment, but if she starts getting defensive, abort! Abort! Run for the hills!
At the end of the day, the drama she creates is not your responsibility, it’s hers. And this situation sounds like a potential bride-cano ready to go off.
Post # 78
I would probably never speak to this person again. This is her showing her true colors.
I can’t believe she is trying to turn a profit off her guests. And she “expects” you to bring a wedding gift?! No one should expect a gift, ever–that’s why it’s a gift, and not tribute.
Post # 79
This girl sounds like the craziest biatch of all time. I’d not go, and I’d prolly limit contact after that, too. What a nutjob.
Post # 80
So you can’t go if you don’t pay for the cabin… so there it is right there. You are paying for the event not just accommodation. Wow I just got married and was telling people not to stay at the venue as it was $290 a night… that was for 2 people, a private bathroom and a beautiful view… not bunk beds… she sounds a little nuts. It will be a wake up call when no one goes.
I like the idea of taking a picnic basket and taking your own reception with you! Or going to a restaurant after with all the people that couldn’t afford the $250.
Post # 81
So 8 people to a cabin… So if I’m invited with my fiancé, and don’t really know anyone else going.. Who are we supposed to shack up with? Random cousins and neighbors? LOL you’d probably get really close with people. “Excuse me, can you hold my fancy dress while i slip on my shower sandals?”
Post # 82
@cmsciulli: It looks like the bride you linked to is in Kansas City… not NYC. But ohmygoodess, that sure does sound similar!
Post # 84
I agree with PPs – just don’t go. She won’t even notice with her 399 other invited guests…
Post # 85
@Ice_cream: Funny you hould say that… we have single friend (recenty broke up, and her ex will also be at the wedding) and the bride has placed the single friend in a bunk with a bunch of random single girls that our single friend has never met before.
Post # 86
different bride on the knot for sure….
apparently the news today is there was a mass revolt from all guests (including the bridal party) and there may be changes coming…. yikes!
I feel so bad for this girl and in a minute I would help her re-do her whole wedding bc I have to say this just isn’t going to work out how she dreamed it would…..but I definitely will not be sacrificing myself to tell her that
Post # 87
oh and welcome to my friend mango song who is also a guest at the wedding (and one of my suggested bunk mates!)
Post # 88
I know I’m pretty late to this thread, but I want to say that I am also having a Camp Weekend Wedding. Its going to be a ton of fun! The difference however is that all of our guests have the option of staying on site in bunks, or at a nice lodge a few miles away. For the people that choose to stay in the bunks (which all have 2 private showers and bathroom stalls) its completely FREE! Obviously, not everyone is comfortable staying in that type of “rustic” environment, but I think its a great option! Many of our friends will be staying at the camp with us, but we don’t plan on putting anyone into bunks with people they aren’t already friends with and will probably have only 4-6 people in each bunk. We will also be providing a Friday night dinner, and brunch on Saturday and Sunday in addition to the Reception Dinner. Guests can take part in as much or as little of the weekend as they would like. The point is to enable all our loved ones to come and enjoy a getaway weekend without draining their wallets. Since my FH and I are from different states (MD and NY) we thought why not just make it fair and make it a destination (Poconos, PA) for everyone!
Anyway, I guess I just wanted to make it known that a Camp Wedding can be great, and your friend is really missing the point. I think what she is asking of her guests is ridiculous! You are right in choosing not to go. I hope indeed that the plans have been changed drastically for the sake of the guests that are attending and your poor friend in the wedding party!
Post # 89
@littlemisshostess: I just wouldn’t go. if i did go it would be for the stories you’ll be able to tell later. I certainly wouldn’t stay in the cabin.
Post # 90
@littlemisshostess: Omg I just stumbled across this thread today! I’d love to hear an update – did the guests finally put this horrible bride in her place? This is seriously one of the craziest things I’ve ever heard!
Post # 91
ok so wedding is in 3 weeks….still no more ‘official’ info but lots of news….this might have to wait till i am home and can type normal but here is a start….
as previously mentioned, bridal party freaked/quit and the bride had a meltdown. myself and another gf helped talk her down and get things in perspective…you know you still get to marry fh, you will be together etc
i then privately took her for a cup of tea and tried to calmly tell her that while it was a cute idea, things dont always work out and ppl want to be there for her day but they cant not pay their rent either. her mother had convinced her that ppl wouldnt know/care about the price bc “its typical for destination weddings”. i explained that asking me to buy my own lunch or drinks is one thing bc i choose to buy/drink eat but a mandetory lunch i may or may not like or eat isnt cool. also it really puts ppl off to be charged a cover.
she admitted that the mother was trying to put out this huge spread to impress ppl and didnt gave the cash…i told her to scale back…
we then spent a whole day going over, pricing, packages, menus etc and understanding what was going on…..in the end we were able to find Asome places to cut costs and get better understanding of where money was going. she went home to speak w fi & mom……
next day i get a call what about just charging for lunch? i tell her honestly i dont like the idea but if its reasonable then it might be ok….
havent heard anything since….. she was suppose to come over tomorrow but the invites are finally in so they need to assemble/mail out asap…
i still feel bad bc she has no clue that this was so terrible….she is sweet just a bit clueless.
her bachelorette was this weekend and only 9ppl bc it was $160pp and most ppl just didnt want to/couldnt spend that much (before drinks etc)