(Closed) bride asking too much of guests? should someone tell her?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: should someone tell the bride she is crazy?

    yes- your guests are not a wallet

    no - even though its crazy its her day and she gets to do what she wants

    no - don't get involved in this mess and run far away from this wedding

    no - this isn't a big deal and you are over reacting

  • Post # 93
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I have said this before and Iwill say it again… The person paying holds all the cards. It isyour money, you can do what you want. Did she mention that if you pay for the trip then that is your gift to her? If you guys fork out that money, then don’t give her a damn gift! Plus, you have other wedding to buy gifts for as well. If she wants that then she needs to pay for it herself, or at least a percentage. Basically, she wants her guests to throw her a wedding, which is idiotic… I would skip that whole shebang…

    Post # 94
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    1581 posts
    Bumble bee

    @littlemisshostess:  thanks for the update & intrigued as to where this will go…

    Post # 94
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    When I was researching camp weddings it is actually the camp that sets this cost $250.00 per person for the weekend and that covered accommodations – yes a bunk house with shared bathrooms – all the amenities and activities of the camp, and all the food and booze for the whole weekend.

    I would definitely spend way more than that on food, accommodations, and meals outside the actual reception if I was attending someone’s wedding 2 hours outside of town.  

    I think the camp idea is great and I would have had a blast.  For $250.00 seems like a deal 🙂  I don’t think the bride is being unreasonable at all. 

    Post # 96
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Holy thats steep!! We were considering a wedding like this (cabin style) 250$ per cabin, not per guest but it came with running water and the normal 1-2 guests per room not 8! She shouldnt make you feel like you have to stay in a cabin with 8 other people, yuck…

    Post # 97
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    6216 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Deleted bc it’s an old post. 

    Post # 99
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    So I would go to the hotel, eat a great meal together with the other friends/guests of the hotel and go.  I will say I’m sure the standard rate of the cabin is $200 but remember this is a wedding and we ALL know places jack the cost up for that.  It also sounds like the $250 includes food.  So basically its a destination weddig where you pay $250 for the (bare bones) accomdations and food.  I probably wouldn’t in your age range with all the weddings you have coming up.  But if you really want to be ther do the hotel and enjoy the ceremony and not eating at the reception, lol.

    EDIT: Just realized its an old post but ill leave my comment in case it helps people searching

    Post # 100
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    166 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

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    littlemisshostess :  

    Hi! Me again.  So I realized 2 things.  1 – I myself decided against a Camp wedding because I thought it was too rustic and too expensive for our guests at 250 Canadian dollars a guest a weekend.  And 2. I’m Canadian so ya paying $250 USD seems like a whole lot! Also if it were just 100 guest count I could understand but with 400 I just can’t see how any Camp would be charging that much for its use unless you are absorbing Reception bells and whistles.  

     

    So so I officially apologize.  You’re right! Too much.   That said, I am sure it was fun for people who like to bunk together and party and recapture that camp feeling.  Too bad it wasn’t just optional, to begin with and your decision to seek alternative accommodations could have been gracefully received and accepted by the bride without the drama

     

    We picked a place that’s $55 usd a night but you get your own room and queen bed and bathroom. 

    Post # 101
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Someone should tell her how unreasonable it is to expect all of this…unfortunately it sounds like her close friends and family are not keeping her in check.

    Just don’t go. I would predict others won’t either.

    EDIT: just realised how old this post is – oops! Sorry.

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