Bride being tacky or am I being hormonal?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I couldn’t even get past the stuff about her mom and the flowers. Your friend is a piece of shit. I don’t know that i could stay friends with someone who could act like that.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I couldn’t read all of this. You are way too nice of a person if you think you may just be hormonal. She sounds like an absolutely terrible person.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Why are you friends with her? She sounds like an asshole

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I can’t understand why you’re friends with her. Sounds like she was an awful person before she was a bride, is extra awful as a bride, and will continue to be awful after the wedding.  Why are you even spending time with her? It seems like she doesn’t respect you, or anyone for that matter.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Wow, I was mortified just reading paragraph 1 about her fiancé having to sell his car to buy the ring and the way she demanded from her mother and the way she treated her own mother and grandmother. And the second paragraph didn’t get any better. Just wow. 

She sounds like a 5 year old girl to be honest. I want this! I want that! It’s not FAIR! Don’t you DARE go into labour at my wedding! (Perhaps she doesn’t understand how pregnancy and child birth works lol….)

I would honestly resign from my bridesmaid position at this point if I were you. Too much drama and demands and not enough gratitude for me to keep being her bridesmaid and even her friend. I would be polite and use your high risk pregnancy as reason to withdraw from the bridal party and distance from her from hereon. You don’t need this stress and upset while you have a high risk pregnancy. Consider the money spent so far commensurate to your friendship and let it be the end, that’s what I would do.

Edit to add: I wouldn’t be friends who treat their family like this to begin with. It’s not about judging but someone like that clearly has very different moral values to me, and not someone I want to keep in my life.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My mom would have smacked the shit out of me so no, i don’t think you’re overreacting. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

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tinker44 :  as people change, friendships change too. And they end because of it. I think it’s time this one ends.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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tinker44 :  It’s not “tacky” — it’s demanding and entitled. The way to deal with demanding entitled people is to stop giving into their demands and going along with the shit they think they’re entitled to. Giving in just reinforces their belief that they’re being reasonable and the world really does owe them. So stop. She’ll probably throw a tantrum and then drop you as a friend. Win-win, right?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

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tinker44 :  Your friend is an asshole. I don’t give presents to assholes.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Not only would I drop out of this wedding, I would also drop out of this woman’s life.

Based on what you’ve wrote here, she sounds like a truly awful person and I can’t for the life of me understand why you (or anyone for that matter) would put up with her a minute longer.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

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tinker44 :  Your friend sounds like a total brat. In your position I’d gracefully bow out of bridesmaid duties if at all possible rather than deal with this bridezilla. If you choose to remain in the wedding party, just say you are sorry but you can’t contribute 500 for a shower but you can do xyz (pick up cupcakes a sandwich platter). 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Yea you should drop out… of this lady’s life. You and your baby don’t need this stress. 

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