Bride buying one of her bridesmaid dresses after wedding

posted 3 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

Sounds a little rude to me. You made them buy a dress and aren’t offering the full price… plus it’s altered to them, not you. If you like it so much buy it from the shop. I would be a little taken back if someone wanted to buy a dress from me. What if I didn’t want to sell it? 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

bunnkiwi7117 :  I would offer to pay the full retail cost (minus alterations) and let your friend decide if she wants to offer it for less. It feels icky to say “hey buy this $240 dress for my wedding! Ok, now sell it to me for $100 because I want to wear it now”. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Offer full price, or buy it new yourself.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I agree with the other posters. You picked this dress and asked your friend to pay $240 and wear it to make your day special and now you want to low ball her and buy it at a hugely reduced price because you want to wear it? 

I would be very surprised if any other news have done this and can give you direct advice. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee

I too agree its super shady to lowball them after you made them pay full price. If you love it so much, buy it at full price.

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I’d be offended if you did that to me.  Find out first if they actually want to sell their dress and offer $240 minimum.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

i’d offer full price or order it new from the shop.

you are the reason she purchased the dress in the first place and she agreed to because it was for your wedding. she’d likely be glad to part with it since bridesmaid dresses don’t see a lot of use after the wedding. offering to buy it from her for a steep discount comes off as all kinds of unsavory though.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Totally agree with the other bees. Kinda like it was a tricky way for you to get a nice dress for cheap. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

bunnkiwi7117 :  What if you suggest to her that you buy the dress, she can wear it for the wedding, and then she gives it back to you? That seems like a win-win, as opposed to your idea which is you-win, she-loses.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

bunnkiwi7117 :  feels really shady. unless you know that your friend wants to sell her dress (as in, she’s straight up told you that she’s going to list it for $150), if you want the dress you should offer her full price. the only reason the dress is not in new condition is because you forced her to buy it for your wedding. on the other hand, if you see that she’s actively selling the dress for $150, i don’t think it would be out of place to approach her and say, “i’d gladly buy the dress off of you, i just love it!”

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Maybe I’m strange but if someone wanted to take a USED bridesmaid dress off my hands for $100 to $150 I’d definitely oblige them.

I guess it depends on the person.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

ladyvk :  If a random “someone” offered to give me $100 for a bridesmaid dress? Sure! It’s different though when that same someone is who made you to buy that dress at $240 in the first place. 

OP I agree with the consensus. Offer her full price. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

llevinso :  honestly I wouldn’t care either way. It’s getting rid of something I don’t want. As a bridesmaid I’ve already agreed to and am well aware I’m going to end up with a dress I may not like, I’ve committed to that. I get it. I’m buying the damn dress regardless because I’m helping someone celebrate their day.

If the bride wants to buy it back for less, let her, I seriously don’t see the problem or why you guys are calling her shady.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Personally I wouldn’t be offended at all. No one MADE anyone buy the dress. I agree with ladyvk.

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