Post # 1
So I a bridesmaid for a friend of mine and after much ado, we bought our bridesmaids dresses and shoes last month. She purchased a dress for the bridesmaid that wasn’t with us whom none of us had met. She told us she is 12 and wears a size 3. Sounds like it should work. So NOW, a month later and three non returnable gown and show purchases later, she tells us that the 12 year old weighs 160 pounds doesn’t fit her dress and we all have to purchase new dresses and shoes…. I suggested taking the dress to a seamstress or having the 12 year old wear a diffferent dress because to be honest we are all in a late 20’s and the dresses are very adult sexy. Not really appropiate for a 12 year old anyway. The bride just wants to start all over with the dresses and shoes and jewerly. Arg.
Post # 3
If the bride is paying for the dresses, that would be okay, but if you are having to pay for a second dress, I would tell her no way. It is not your fault that she didn’t check the size of the 12 year old, and you are correct, the 12 year old should be wearing something that would be more age appropriate.
Post # 4
I would tell her no, unless SHE wants to absorb either the price of the first (non-returnable) dresses, or pay for the second round of dresses. (And shoes, jewellery, etc., if she’s demanding you get those new as well, unless of course they’re returnable for a refund.)
Just straight-up explain to her that it’s completely unfair to expect the rest of you bridesmaids to pony up your money for what was her’s (and the 12-year-old’s) mistake. State that you didn’t sign up for such a financial burden, and that as much as you want to be her bridesmaid and are honoured that she asked, you feel that it’s completely unfair & uncouth for her to be asking her girls to absorb the financial hit that this would cause.
Post # 5
It’s been said. If you are having to bear the cost of her poor decision making, she is being unreasonable.
It would be so much easier for her to just find a suitable dress for the 12 yr old.
Post # 6
@ppplll6: Tell her that if she wants to change the dress after you purchased it then she has to pay. If she doesn’t like it, tell her too bad so sad.
Post # 7
yea pretty much what PP said. If she wants to change it she has to pay at this point. I really does make more sense to just change the 12 year olds dress.
Post # 8
I’m going to add my voice in favor of what the other ladies have said. I’d be putting my foot down and telling her that if she wants a new dress then fine, but she’s got to pay you back for the old dress. It’s pretty much just silly for her to not just have the 12 year old wear something different.
Post # 9
I agree with PP, if she’s decided everyone needs a new dress, shoes, and accessories, then she needs to absorb the price of the second dresses or pay you back for the first one.
Post # 10
That’s just ridiculous if you’re expected to buy another dress and she needs to find a new dress for the 12 year old.
Post # 11
yeah that’s BS. my friend did this to me at her wedding but luckily the company let me switch it for the other one she chose.
Post # 12
A 12 yo bridesmaid? Sounds too young. Maybe she can be a junior bridesmaid and wear a different dress with the same color?