(Closed) Bride changing bridesmaids dresses after we purchased them??!!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

If the bride is paying for the dresses, that would be okay, but if you are having to pay for a second dress, I would tell her no way. It is not your fault that she didn’t check the size of the 12 year old, and you are correct, the 12 year old should be wearing something that would be more age appropriate.

Post # 4
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would tell her no, unless SHE wants to absorb either the price of the first (non-returnable) dresses, or pay for the second round of dresses. (And shoes, jewellery, etc., if she’s demanding you get those new as well, unless of course they’re returnable for a refund.)

Just straight-up explain to her that it’s completely unfair to expect the rest of you bridesmaids to pony up your money for what was her’s (and the 12-year-old’s) mistake. State that you didn’t sign up for such a financial burden, and that as much as you want to be her bridesmaid and are honoured that she asked, you feel that it’s completely unfair & uncouth for her to be asking her girls to absorb the financial hit that this would cause.

Post # 5
46613 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s been said. If you are having to bear the cost of her poor decision making, she is being unreasonable.

It would be so much easier for her to just find a suitable dress for the 12 yr old.

Post # 6
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ppplll6: Tell her that if she wants to change the dress after you purchased it then she has to pay. If she doesn’t like it, tell her too bad so sad. 

Post # 7
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

yea pretty much what PP said. If she wants to change it she has to pay at this point. I really does make more sense to just change the 12 year olds dress.

Post # 8
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m going to add my voice in favor of what the other ladies have said.  I’d be putting my foot down and telling her that if she wants a new dress then fine, but she’s got to pay you back for the old dress.  It’s pretty much just silly for her to not just have the 12 year old wear something different.

Post # 9
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with PP, if she’s decided everyone needs a new dress, shoes, and accessories, then she needs to absorb the price of the second dresses or pay you back for the first one.

Post # 10
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s just ridiculous if you’re expected to buy another dress and she needs to find a new dress for the 12 year old.

Post # 11
3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

yeah that’s BS. my friend did this to me at her wedding but luckily the company let me switch it for the other one she chose.

Post # 12
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

A 12 yo bridesmaid? Sounds too young. Maybe she can be a junior bridesmaid and wear a different dress with the same color?

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