(Closed) Bride FREAKS OUT over gift

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: If you're invited to a wedding but can't afford to cover your meal, what do you give?

    A thoughtful, heartfelt gift - a gift basket of foods the couple enjoys

    Break your budget and buy a gift to cover the cost of your meal

    A gift card within your means to the store they have registered at

    A handmade gift you think the couple will enjoy

    Nothing and not go

  • Post # 62
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Ok, so depending on the person that gift might have been a bit odd. Personally, I would have just been grateful someone thought to give a gift and enjoy the food.

    Is this a cultuarl/regional thing to expect people to cover their plates? I’d never heard of this before coming on to the Bee and not a single person even tried to cover their plates at our event (heck, out of the 60+ people there we sent out 17 thank you cards).

    Post # 63
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I don’t expect anyone to give me anything at my wedding, to get a basket full of snacks would be awesome!

    Post # 64
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Am I the only one who thinks the gift ain’t half bad? Heck, we send out hampers like that to family all the time – good to know a lot of people think it’s tacky, lol!

    EDIT: I’d be particularly happy to get one with all American sweets in… Marshmallow Fluff, Lucky Charms, Twinkies – oh god, Americans have the BEST sweets.

    Post # 65
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @mgol25:  Wow this article makes me pretty mad. I’m not exactly naive and I like material goods as much as the next person… but wtf is wrong with this bride? I think it was a really thoughtful gift. I really don’t see what was SO bad about it. Don’t spend $34K on a venue if you bitch about not getting $150.

    Some people amaze me.

    Reading things like this makes me wonder about wedding gifts I’ve given in the past. You try to pick something nice out and people just make fun of it. Yeeesh.

     

    Post # 66
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @ZebraPrintMe:  I don’t think it’s that bad either lol.. like I said earlier, I’d add a few things and make a date night out of it lol ..

    Post # 67
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @mgol25:  Wow, I’m glad I wasn’t invited to her wedding!!  We always give a $50 gift, regardless of the meal type.

    Post # 68
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think the bride was way out of line, but bringing a basket of candy as a wedding gift would be seen as incredibly tacky, although anyone with an ounce of class should no better than to say anything about it. Both are tacky as far as I’m concerned. 

    Post # 69
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @PrincessPerry:  Agreed! Heck, it’s more useful than that fifteenth toaster you didn’t want/need, right?

    Post # 70
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    WOW what a reaction. The gift was actually kind of odd, but that in no way excuses the bride’s behavior. What a bitch!

    Post # 71
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard

    We did not throw a lavish wedding in order to receive gifts (and I decided to forego the shower for this reason too). We wanted to treat our friends and family to a good time, gifts were welcome but not expected. 

    I am so sick of this attitude that the couple should receive exactly what they spent on the wedding. 

    Post # 72
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    After reading all thats expected of ‘etiquette’ in Ontario I am glad I am from Nfld lol. No ones going to pay for your future, if you go to someones wedding you give them what you can and based on how close you are, you don’t pay for their future lol they can pay for their own future and you pay for your own future and everyones even.

    Post # 73
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @dressme3:  I was thinking east end…but yeah further east…I find some people in that area (I work for the school board and travel throughout the city, and it’s amazing how DIFFERENT people’s attitudes/behaviour is depending on the area…it’s crazy really)….think they are better than other people, but it’s not really a wealthy area, and is fairly cheap to buy a large house…..

     

    they’re called “creekers”

    Post # 74
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @CherryL:  It’s not all ontarians…and it’s definitely not just because she is from hamilton….

     

    I am from Hamilton, born, bred and still work there (happily I love hamilton)…but I live in burlington (and I LOVE burlington)…..

    and my Fiance and I have NOT and would NOT ever do that!!!! and NONE of our friends would do it either (and we have friends all over the GTA)….

     

    This bride is just a b*tch…..I don’t think it would matter if she was from hamilton or bora bora

    Post # 75
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Duncan:  Okay, really???? people can stop slamming hamilton, I am a proud born and raised hamiltonian…..I still work there even…I think it’s a great city with (mostly) great people…

    Post # 76
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @mgol25:  I’m sorry but I think this cover your plate thing that goes around is just absolutely disgusting. If you (general you) want money that badly don’t throw a reception, just ask for a hand out straight up! GAH!

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