(Closed) Bride & Groom with two TOTALLY different visions..

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would smile and tell him if he can come up with the additional $$$$s – then you will think about it.

Post # 4
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just curious, are you sleeping in the house too? As in, are you spending your wedding night a few feet away from all of your guests? Also, who gets to stay in the house? Is it first come first serve?

Post # 5
2270 posts
Buzzing bee

He’s nuts. Your idea is way better. My SO would take my word for it. Hopefully you can talk some sense into him. Plus, the wedding is only 2.5 hrs away? That’s a very nearby destination wedding, and you have a place for most of the people to sleep.

I recently attended a wedding that was a 2 hour drive away, and some of the guests got to stay in a big farmhouse the bride’s family rented (my SO and I were 2 of the lucky ones). It was awesome! The wedding lasted until 1 am or so. it was the most fun I’ve ever had at a wedding.

Post # 6
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I would start with guest list and who he thinks he all wants there. Price out a wedding including those people at a venue he likes. Maybe that alone will be enough to get him to compromise a little bit more. I do think that the two of you can meet in the middle. maybe a little bit more formal venue closer to home, with a more people. But not as large and formal as a fancy ballroom wedding.

Post # 8
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@sweetdee522:  We looked at doing something like that, but Darling Husband wanted all these people to come, plus My family were all coming from Out of Town anyways and I wanted them to be able to get in the Ocean at the time of our wedding, March. 

I showed him a ton of rental houses for the wedding, and he kept saying not big enought. He wanted them  ALL to stay with us or in the condo’s next to us.  So i dropped it in HIS lap.  I told him i’d do what he wanted BUT we had $5k to play with.

sigh … he found a place that did ceremony and food for 80 for 2500.00.   Maybe you should drop it in his lap to figure out. 

Where are y’all looking for rentals in nove?

Post # 10
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sweetdee522:  I was mostly worried about people trying to follow you up to your suite, or not letting you leave the party, or waking you up super early the next morning.

I do want to live in that house now though. Its gorgeous.

Post # 11
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO – sweetdee522:  gotta say GORGEOUS Venue !!

Ya, I’d stick with YOUR Plan…

BUT I do understand where he is coming from.  Sometimes you see what someone else is doing, and it stirs up ideas.

The nice thing is your Wedding (as in the two of you) will be different to his Sister’s… which lets face it is what a couple usually wants, THEIR Wedding to stand apart from the crowd (and it looks to me like yours will)

As much as it will be extra work, I think you need to do some research in costing for a 125 person ballroom wedding… so he can actually see in black & white (and RED the colour of ink you’ll be in debt with) what it would cost to have such an affair.

Money always seems to sway men… lol

Communicating is the other key when a couple isn’t always on the same page in regards to vision… I know Mr TTR and I have found that at times in the Wedding Plans that we aren’t always “seeing the same thing”.  Talking it out has helped.  A good couple learns that compromise is important in a Wedding as much as it is in marriage.  Maybe find out what is the “vibe” about a Ballroom Wedding that appeals to him, and see if you can’t incorporate some of that into the Destination Wedding.

And oh ya, gotta agree with the other Bees, 2 or 3 hours out of town, isn’t a big deal.  And the Destination / Venue looks amazing… I’d certainly want to go.  March in Florida should be terrific, and this house / mansion a knock-out for a Wedding & Party !!


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