Post # 16
So I feel like you have two options:
1. Sit her down and try to thoughtfully point out some of the problems with her current plan.
2. Stay mum and keep us updated on how the Bridesmaid or Best Man demotions turn out.
I selfishly advocate for #2. (But no, really, it’s not inappropriate to do #1.)
Post # 17
ABusyBride: Haha she can be such a train wreck that I’m sure I’ll have more stories for you. I love her dearly but I often have to look at her a go what the hell was going through your head when you chose to do that?!?! I just know weddings can be a touchy subject but after getting the bees’ opinions I’m definitely going to have a heart to heart with ger about the bridal party stuff. But those stds and rsvps are all on her!
Post # 18
mo711: All good, sometimes it’s easy to glaze over WHY someone is doing what they’re doing, so it’s good you understand. You’re totally right though, she at least needs to pin down a definite bridal party, then she can maybe start looking at dresses she likes – without actually committing to anything right now!
Post # 19
You should get a wedding planning timeline from somewhere. Sit down with her & have her look at it. Say things like “do you think xyz is getting done too early?” that’ll open the conversation & you can tell her your opinion.
Post # 20
If she is your close friend, be honest with her. A reasonable person will be able to tell that you aren’t trying to squash her happiness; you are trying to provide the perspective of a guest of bridal party — both of which she seems to need.